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<blockquote data-quote="On_Call" data-source="post: 24468" data-attributes="member: 3211"><p>Where our difficult child is concerned, husband and I have done a lot of things we said we'd "never" do. </p><p></p><p>I, too, was against medication. I cried the first time I gave difficult child ritalin - 6 years ago. I have cried several times since, when trialing and discarding a new medication that we had hopes for.</p><p></p><p>We were 'never' going to allow difficult child to be placed in a contained classroom. He has been in that setting for 3 years now. Before his placement, I know that I posted on this board that I was fighting the sd on the subject. It has been a hard battle to maintain a civil, let alone working, relationship with the sd through the years, but for the most part, we've succeeded.</p><p></p><p>We were 'never' going to get to the point where we would have to hospitalize difficult child. He has been inpatient 3 times in 4 years. Each time we are convinced that it was necessary and the best place for difficult child at those times in his life.</p><p></p><p>We have learned, the hard way of course, that 'never' really should be one of those words that is condemned.</p><p></p><p>We might not like all of the things we have had to do, but we have done them with the best interest of difficult child. Truthfully, some of the moves we've made were far harder on us than on difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I won't even think about how many opinions from family and friends that we have endured over the years. That's an entirely different thread, I think.</p><p></p><p>And, all of our decisions haven't been good ones, although they were all made with the best intentions. You live and you learn.</p><p></p><p>I guess what I'm trying to say is that none of us has a crystal ball - we can't see into the future, so we really don't know what decisions we may make with regard to our difficult children. And, each difficult child is different - each family dynamic is different, etc. At the end of the day, you just have to do what is right for you on that particular day - and hope that the outcome is a positive one - for you and your family.</p><p></p><p>Just my .02.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="On_Call, post: 24468, member: 3211"] Where our difficult child is concerned, husband and I have done a lot of things we said we'd "never" do. I, too, was against medication. I cried the first time I gave difficult child ritalin - 6 years ago. I have cried several times since, when trialing and discarding a new medication that we had hopes for. We were 'never' going to allow difficult child to be placed in a contained classroom. He has been in that setting for 3 years now. Before his placement, I know that I posted on this board that I was fighting the sd on the subject. It has been a hard battle to maintain a civil, let alone working, relationship with the sd through the years, but for the most part, we've succeeded. We were 'never' going to get to the point where we would have to hospitalize difficult child. He has been inpatient 3 times in 4 years. Each time we are convinced that it was necessary and the best place for difficult child at those times in his life. We have learned, the hard way of course, that 'never' really should be one of those words that is condemned. We might not like all of the things we have had to do, but we have done them with the best interest of difficult child. Truthfully, some of the moves we've made were far harder on us than on difficult child. I won't even think about how many opinions from family and friends that we have endured over the years. That's an entirely different thread, I think. And, all of our decisions haven't been good ones, although they were all made with the best intentions. You live and you learn. I guess what I'm trying to say is that none of us has a crystal ball - we can't see into the future, so we really don't know what decisions we may make with regard to our difficult children. And, each difficult child is different - each family dynamic is different, etc. At the end of the day, you just have to do what is right for you on that particular day - and hope that the outcome is a positive one - for you and your family. Just my .02. [/QUOTE]
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