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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 45587"><p>I too had similiar issues. difficult child would have me in tears by 4 years old. Was told over an over how smart he is. First grade he was tested due to behavior issues, but very smart. He tested gifted. We chose to advance him a grade hoping to challenge him. We were asked many, many times to consider counseling, didn't work, he wouldn't talk, or would run out. we were asked many times to consider medication and Special Education. Totally against that. Didn't want him labeled, didn't want him on medication..dealt with many issues. Fast forward to now. 7th grade. Failed three classes LAST year (6th grade) and because of his behavior we were given a choice, Special Education or expulsion.</p><p>Medication he started mid 5th grade. He was scared, he didn't want to feel that way. We also received the same answer you did.</p><p>As for skipping a grade..do not recommend it. He is no way mature emotionally as other kids in his class, and it is hard for him to deal with a lot of kids. Friends have always been difficult. We were also told ODD at age 3. Maybee even age 2. Now diagnosis is bipolar, ODD, anxiety and depression. VERY much anxiety. I am cautious on medication. Had school psychologist test him again, that was last week. All I know until this afternoon is that achademically he scored 92% and 99% higher than other 7th graders. So..why does he refuse to do work? Why does he refuse to go to class? He has built up a reputation for himself which causes a lot of teachers / staff to pick him as a target no matter what. I have spent literally years fighting for him. He does not always do what he is blamed for. He even was accused of stealing from a teachers purse and he wasn't even AT school that day. I do not see any of that changing. I can only fight so much for him. He needs to work on his side. He did decide to work 2nd qtr and had all A's. Third qtr he quit working for whatever reason. He scores off the charts beyond advanced on all the state tests, and is smart enough to have figured out if he scores well there school district will not allow him in summer school.</p><p>Just trying to point out, I was in your place. Fighting medication for years, fighting spec. ed for years. It is there to help when you feel it is the right time. and depending on diagnosis.</p><p>There are times when I feel like leaving and never looking back. More recently than ever. House has just been falling apart. difficult child plays husband and myself against each other. Says I lie, and husband believes him. But, difficult child would never speak to husband the way he speaks to me.</p><p>I really hope you are able to work with your diagnosis. I hope difficult child will work with you. I pray that you find peace in your home.</p><p>There is a lot of reading suggested here, and all good reading.</p><p>You learn a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 45587"] I too had similiar issues. difficult child would have me in tears by 4 years old. Was told over an over how smart he is. First grade he was tested due to behavior issues, but very smart. He tested gifted. We chose to advance him a grade hoping to challenge him. We were asked many, many times to consider counseling, didn't work, he wouldn't talk, or would run out. we were asked many times to consider medication and Special Education. Totally against that. Didn't want him labeled, didn't want him on medication..dealt with many issues. Fast forward to now. 7th grade. Failed three classes LAST year (6th grade) and because of his behavior we were given a choice, Special Education or expulsion. Medication he started mid 5th grade. He was scared, he didn't want to feel that way. We also received the same answer you did. As for skipping a grade..do not recommend it. He is no way mature emotionally as other kids in his class, and it is hard for him to deal with a lot of kids. Friends have always been difficult. We were also told ODD at age 3. Maybee even age 2. Now diagnosis is bipolar, ODD, anxiety and depression. VERY much anxiety. I am cautious on medication. Had school psychologist test him again, that was last week. All I know until this afternoon is that achademically he scored 92% and 99% higher than other 7th graders. So..why does he refuse to do work? Why does he refuse to go to class? He has built up a reputation for himself which causes a lot of teachers / staff to pick him as a target no matter what. I have spent literally years fighting for him. He does not always do what he is blamed for. He even was accused of stealing from a teachers purse and he wasn't even AT school that day. I do not see any of that changing. I can only fight so much for him. He needs to work on his side. He did decide to work 2nd qtr and had all A's. Third qtr he quit working for whatever reason. He scores off the charts beyond advanced on all the state tests, and is smart enough to have figured out if he scores well there school district will not allow him in summer school. Just trying to point out, I was in your place. Fighting medication for years, fighting spec. ed for years. It is there to help when you feel it is the right time. and depending on diagnosis. There are times when I feel like leaving and never looking back. More recently than ever. House has just been falling apart. difficult child plays husband and myself against each other. Says I lie, and husband believes him. But, difficult child would never speak to husband the way he speaks to me. I really hope you are able to work with your diagnosis. I hope difficult child will work with you. I pray that you find peace in your home. There is a lot of reading suggested here, and all good reading. You learn a lot. [/QUOTE]
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