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<blockquote data-quote="moonraven24" data-source="post: 169014" data-attributes="member: 5481"><p>In response to CrazyinVA, I've actually been off of Bi-Polar medications about 6 years. My doctor figured out that I am actually Bi-Polar II, and that Lithium and Depakote, which I was on for years, did me more harm than good. I now have permanent thyroid damage and liver damage from those medicines, which never really did much for me, since I don't get manic and they work better for mania control. When I get unmanageably down, I can usually get back on track with lexapro for a few months, and that has only been the last two years since my little one was born. PPD seems to last for over a year for me..I know it did with my difficult child, and with my little one it was not quite as bad, but hung around a while. I was seeing the sliding scale mental health clinic then. Now I have insurance so they won't see me, but I will soon be off insurance when I stop working, so I may have to wait until then to get back in. Other than that I have been off of medications as much as possible. </p><p></p><p> In response to Christy, no they gave us no real services at all. They promised us 'wrap around services' which I thought meant some help after discharge, but I guess all it meant was that the case manager would set up a therapy appointment to follow discharge. That was it. There doesn't seem to be much of anything around here. Heck, I'm hard pressed to find a therapist that takes kids, never mind find programs for her. We have some problems getting her into extracurricular programs and things with the school because she has been branded as the 'kid who poisoned her teacher". </p><p> I didn't really have time to plan for her coming home either. I went to the group home for family therapy on Wednesday during my lunch break at work and they said, "Guess what? We're discharging her today. You can come back after work and pick her up." So, I have had no time to get anything in place. I was in shock. I protested, but apparently medicaid said that if she didn't need 24 hour watch, she didn't need to be there. </p><p> I planned to leave work July 3rd, as I thought she would be coming home sometime after that, and I had this whole plan regarding how I would get everything organized and set up specific rules and chores and a schedule and stuff -she always does better if she knows what is expected and its consistent- just like most kids. Then last Wednesday with no warning I was given back my child, who apparently has manipulated the system. She did what she thought they wanted, and now she is home. Now she knows what it takes to get put back there (i.e. dangerous behavior/cutting/putting others in danger/etc) so she keeps her behavior <u>just</u> below that line. </p><p> I <em>am</em> worried about staying home with her all day, because even though it will give me a chance to get things in order, I'm worried about she and I being in each other's face all day and the baby being in the middle. At the same time, I feel like I have to get control of my home again. Right now she is dictating the tone of everything. I feel like I need to get a white board, list the rules, and a schedule, and make everybody stick to it. That's what the group home suggested anyway, and it sounds good in theory. I'll have to just see how it goes. </p><p></p><p></p><p>In response to smallworld, yes she is on medications- Lamictal 50mg 2x day. It has worked great for the COBPD. The smirking is not related to the Bi-polar..at least her therapist doesn't think so. She thinks its because she gets pleasure out of making everything chaotic. She enjoys the control it gives her and that she has that effect on others. She will start arguments in our house just to watch the fireworks fly. She's not manic... her teacher called it a pretty evil look. I've seen it and I would have to agree. She had me really frustrated in a car one day..I actually started to cry (which I really try not to do around her because I don't feel she needs to see it) and she asked what was wrong and I said I was just frustrated and I wished I knew how to get her to stop lying and stealing. I looked in the mirror, and she was smirking... and after a few seconds she said- "well you can't."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="moonraven24, post: 169014, member: 5481"] In response to CrazyinVA, I've actually been off of Bi-Polar medications about 6 years. My doctor figured out that I am actually Bi-Polar II, and that Lithium and Depakote, which I was on for years, did me more harm than good. I now have permanent thyroid damage and liver damage from those medicines, which never really did much for me, since I don't get manic and they work better for mania control. When I get unmanageably down, I can usually get back on track with lexapro for a few months, and that has only been the last two years since my little one was born. PPD seems to last for over a year for me..I know it did with my difficult child, and with my little one it was not quite as bad, but hung around a while. I was seeing the sliding scale mental health clinic then. Now I have insurance so they won't see me, but I will soon be off insurance when I stop working, so I may have to wait until then to get back in. Other than that I have been off of medications as much as possible. In response to Christy, no they gave us no real services at all. They promised us 'wrap around services' which I thought meant some help after discharge, but I guess all it meant was that the case manager would set up a therapy appointment to follow discharge. That was it. There doesn't seem to be much of anything around here. Heck, I'm hard pressed to find a therapist that takes kids, never mind find programs for her. We have some problems getting her into extracurricular programs and things with the school because she has been branded as the 'kid who poisoned her teacher". I didn't really have time to plan for her coming home either. I went to the group home for family therapy on Wednesday during my lunch break at work and they said, "Guess what? We're discharging her today. You can come back after work and pick her up." So, I have had no time to get anything in place. I was in shock. I protested, but apparently medicaid said that if she didn't need 24 hour watch, she didn't need to be there. I planned to leave work July 3rd, as I thought she would be coming home sometime after that, and I had this whole plan regarding how I would get everything organized and set up specific rules and chores and a schedule and stuff -she always does better if she knows what is expected and its consistent- just like most kids. Then last Wednesday with no warning I was given back my child, who apparently has manipulated the system. She did what she thought they wanted, and now she is home. Now she knows what it takes to get put back there (i.e. dangerous behavior/cutting/putting others in danger/etc) so she keeps her behavior [U]just[/U] below that line. I [I]am[/I] worried about staying home with her all day, because even though it will give me a chance to get things in order, I'm worried about she and I being in each other's face all day and the baby being in the middle. At the same time, I feel like I have to get control of my home again. Right now she is dictating the tone of everything. I feel like I need to get a white board, list the rules, and a schedule, and make everybody stick to it. That's what the group home suggested anyway, and it sounds good in theory. I'll have to just see how it goes. In response to smallworld, yes she is on medications- Lamictal 50mg 2x day. It has worked great for the COBPD. The smirking is not related to the Bi-polar..at least her therapist doesn't think so. She thinks its because she gets pleasure out of making everything chaotic. She enjoys the control it gives her and that she has that effect on others. She will start arguments in our house just to watch the fireworks fly. She's not manic... her teacher called it a pretty evil look. I've seen it and I would have to agree. She had me really frustrated in a car one day..I actually started to cry (which I really try not to do around her because I don't feel she needs to see it) and she asked what was wrong and I said I was just frustrated and I wished I knew how to get her to stop lying and stealing. I looked in the mirror, and she was smirking... and after a few seconds she said- "well you can't." [/QUOTE]
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