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<blockquote data-quote="HopeRemains" data-source="post: 514616" data-attributes="member: 14139"><p>buddy- I have used my phone, but it is unreliable. If he knows I am taping it, he either plays to an audience, not showing true behavior, or gets enraged that I dare to tape him and even more violent. So now I use my computer, and he doesn't know it. </p><p></p><p>He's just getting so big. He's overweight for his age, and built stocky like husband in the first place. He sneaks food and is only really nice when we are in the grocery store or one of us is cooking. Then he can't stop trying to hug and hold hands. In any case, he has so much strength and he's not a "little" boy anymore. I'm afraid someone is going to get hurt. Either him hurting E or I, or me hurting L trying to protect us. It's going to be unavoidable someday unless things get under control. I have also told him, after his last attack on me, that I will call the police if he ever assaults me again, because it is against the law, even for children. I felt like the biggest piece of **** in the world to have to tell him that, but I had no choice. He was getting worse and going further everytime, seeing how far he could go. That last attack came out of nowhere when I was sitting down, calling husband to let him know what was going on. All of a sudden there were blows to head and kicks out of nowhere. It shocked me because that was the first time he had just attacked me while I was sitting down. </p><p></p><p>One of his other issues (warning, too much info) that I THANKFULLY finally figured out a week ago... He's had "accidents" in his pants until he was 6. Then I started making him clean up after himself- it magically stopped within the first couple of times. Then, last summer he went to BM's house for his first ever two week vacation time, and came back doing it with a vengance, PLUS urination. He hadn't had that problem for 1.5 years. Well, it's continued here (worse when he comes back from there) until last week. I realized he'd been holding it in for days (hence the largeness of his movements). So now I am making him go to the bathroom directly after school, and viola~! No more accidents, and normal sized movements! (He was not constipated, it takes him only a few seconds to do what he needs to.) Score one for the good guys! =)</p><p></p><p>(This was one of the strategies I discussed with husband before implementing it, and he dismissed it as "silly". He got mad at me and said it was inappropriate when I sat L down and discussed his accidents- it made them both a bit uncomfortable. WHAT? I told him it is INAPPROPRIATE that I have to clean up these messes from an 8 yr old who can control it if he chose to!". husband thought that it would be a trigger point to ask L to go to the bathroom everyday, because, well, everything we ask him to do (brush teeth, wash hair) turns into an opportunity for a power struggle. It hasn't so far, yay!)</p><p></p><p>Thank all of you ladies for your support. I am so glad I found this place, and hope you all don't get sick of me complaining sometimes, lol!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HopeRemains, post: 514616, member: 14139"] buddy- I have used my phone, but it is unreliable. If he knows I am taping it, he either plays to an audience, not showing true behavior, or gets enraged that I dare to tape him and even more violent. So now I use my computer, and he doesn't know it. He's just getting so big. He's overweight for his age, and built stocky like husband in the first place. He sneaks food and is only really nice when we are in the grocery store or one of us is cooking. Then he can't stop trying to hug and hold hands. In any case, he has so much strength and he's not a "little" boy anymore. I'm afraid someone is going to get hurt. Either him hurting E or I, or me hurting L trying to protect us. It's going to be unavoidable someday unless things get under control. I have also told him, after his last attack on me, that I will call the police if he ever assaults me again, because it is against the law, even for children. I felt like the biggest piece of **** in the world to have to tell him that, but I had no choice. He was getting worse and going further everytime, seeing how far he could go. That last attack came out of nowhere when I was sitting down, calling husband to let him know what was going on. All of a sudden there were blows to head and kicks out of nowhere. It shocked me because that was the first time he had just attacked me while I was sitting down. One of his other issues (warning, too much info) that I THANKFULLY finally figured out a week ago... He's had "accidents" in his pants until he was 6. Then I started making him clean up after himself- it magically stopped within the first couple of times. Then, last summer he went to BM's house for his first ever two week vacation time, and came back doing it with a vengance, PLUS urination. He hadn't had that problem for 1.5 years. Well, it's continued here (worse when he comes back from there) until last week. I realized he'd been holding it in for days (hence the largeness of his movements). So now I am making him go to the bathroom directly after school, and viola~! No more accidents, and normal sized movements! (He was not constipated, it takes him only a few seconds to do what he needs to.) Score one for the good guys! =) (This was one of the strategies I discussed with husband before implementing it, and he dismissed it as "silly". He got mad at me and said it was inappropriate when I sat L down and discussed his accidents- it made them both a bit uncomfortable. WHAT? I told him it is INAPPROPRIATE that I have to clean up these messes from an 8 yr old who can control it if he chose to!". husband thought that it would be a trigger point to ask L to go to the bathroom everyday, because, well, everything we ask him to do (brush teeth, wash hair) turns into an opportunity for a power struggle. It hasn't so far, yay!) Thank all of you ladies for your support. I am so glad I found this place, and hope you all don't get sick of me complaining sometimes, lol! [/QUOTE]
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