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<blockquote data-quote="HopeRemains" data-source="post: 514646" data-attributes="member: 14139"><p>buddy- It brought tears to my eyes just to hear someone say that the effort I've put into trying to understand isn't in vain, isn't silly. Thank you. </p><p></p><p>I hadn't mentioned attachment problems, but Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is something I looked into very seriously. Because until husband finally got full custody of him legally when he was 2, his BM basically used him as a pawn to try to cause husband grief. Would pick him up because she *missed* him, take him for two hours, drop him back off to husband at his work- forcing him to leave work, or say she wanted him for a short visit, keep him for two weeks and tell husband he would never see L again. She still uses L as a pawn, sadly. I believe so many children who display these behaviors were subject to some trauma like this when a baby or small child. The selfishness is of BM is astounding. She was also hospitalized for psychological problems when she was younger, but we don't know what her diagnosis was. It obviously untreated now and it is very hard to deal with her at any time. I can only imagine what L has to go through there. Her being in the picture is always going to hinder progress here, sadly there isn't much we can do to change that. </p><p></p><p>When I brought it up to the psychiatrist, she dismissed this as well, saying that because he didn't torment animals that it couldn't be Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). But so many other things click when reading the symptoms.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HopeRemains, post: 514646, member: 14139"] buddy- It brought tears to my eyes just to hear someone say that the effort I've put into trying to understand isn't in vain, isn't silly. Thank you. I hadn't mentioned attachment problems, but Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is something I looked into very seriously. Because until husband finally got full custody of him legally when he was 2, his BM basically used him as a pawn to try to cause husband grief. Would pick him up because she *missed* him, take him for two hours, drop him back off to husband at his work- forcing him to leave work, or say she wanted him for a short visit, keep him for two weeks and tell husband he would never see L again. She still uses L as a pawn, sadly. I believe so many children who display these behaviors were subject to some trauma like this when a baby or small child. The selfishness is of BM is astounding. She was also hospitalized for psychological problems when she was younger, but we don't know what her diagnosis was. It obviously untreated now and it is very hard to deal with her at any time. I can only imagine what L has to go through there. Her being in the picture is always going to hinder progress here, sadly there isn't much we can do to change that. When I brought it up to the psychiatrist, she dismissed this as well, saying that because he didn't torment animals that it couldn't be Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). But so many other things click when reading the symptoms. [/QUOTE]
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