Wow - I'm glad I found you all! My partner and I have three between us - and two are...challenging. We blended families a few months ago - and my difficult child is now living full-time with us because she and her other mom are like oil and water. Her difficult child (my stepson) is bright and funny - but the police have been called in the past and I am beginning to see why. I'm reading everything I can about mood and conduct disorders - and trying to stay one step ahead of the hormones. I've been lurking for a while and I am so relieved to find a community of parents who have been there - done that. I am eagerly awaiting my copy of "The Explosive Child" (I ordered it today becuase of what I read here) - and I'm just grateful for all your posts, love and suggestions.