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New and Loving you all.. asking for help 18 runaway daughter..
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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 238896" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Hello Rhonda, and welcome. Sorry you had to find us, but glad you did! </p><p></p><p>You've received a lot of excellent advice; I guess from my own experience so far I would just say that, while you do need to do what will give you peace of mind, I second the others in suggesting that you think very carefully about this request and make sure that you and your SO are on the same page with it. A request for bus fare and housing/meals that includes her boyfriend doesn't sound like a commitment to change course, more like a wish for a place to run to. With no acknowledgment on her part of what she's done to your family so far, that isn't going to be part of her attitude once she arrives. Someone with Auditory Processing Disorders (APD) is focused on 'what will be good for ME?' and won't likely even register that his/her actions affect others negatively.</p><p></p><p>You've done a great deal for her, tried for several years to help her, and I guess the question is what you feel agreeing to this request would do - for you or for her. If you decide to agree, I would suggest support counseling for you via Al-Anon or a family therapist; strict house rules as others have outlined; no boyfriend in the deal; and a plan, and timeline, for her to actually get out on her own. I suspect that if this is the deal she may decide against it but that would be her decision.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 238896, member: 2884"] Hello Rhonda, and welcome. Sorry you had to find us, but glad you did! You've received a lot of excellent advice; I guess from my own experience so far I would just say that, while you do need to do what will give you peace of mind, I second the others in suggesting that you think very carefully about this request and make sure that you and your SO are on the same page with it. A request for bus fare and housing/meals that includes her boyfriend doesn't sound like a commitment to change course, more like a wish for a place to run to. With no acknowledgment on her part of what she's done to your family so far, that isn't going to be part of her attitude once she arrives. Someone with Auditory Processing Disorders (APD) is focused on 'what will be good for ME?' and won't likely even register that his/her actions affect others negatively. You've done a great deal for her, tried for several years to help her, and I guess the question is what you feel agreeing to this request would do - for you or for her. If you decide to agree, I would suggest support counseling for you via Al-Anon or a family therapist; strict house rules as others have outlined; no boyfriend in the deal; and a plan, and timeline, for her to actually get out on her own. I suspect that if this is the deal she may decide against it but that would be her decision. [/QUOTE]
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