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<blockquote data-quote="amy76lee" data-source="post: 220652" data-attributes="member: 6469"><p>Thank you. You just validated what I have been thinking for awhile now...through my own research online and it's also just a gut feeling that I'm having I guess. I've scheduled difficult child for another evaluation with his pcm and I will ask about the neuropsychologist while we're there.</p><p> </p><p>family history is a little hard to get. husband is not difficult child's biological father...his DEX does not know who the real father is, so we have no idea of history for the paternal side. As for difficult child's mother, he is an exact replica of her, according to husband. I can only assume that she has psychiatric problems, but they are not documented. She tends to pursue self-destructive behaviors (drugs/alcohol/abusive relationships/etc) and then seek out sympathy from others.</p><p> </p><p>How was his early development? unsure of early development. </p><p> </p><p>Did he make good eye contact? i know that he does not now. we have to constantly remind him to "look at me" when we're talking.</p><p> </p><p>Did he speak on time? unsure</p><p> </p><p>Did he EVER interact appropriately with his same-age peers? unsure</p><p> </p><p>Did he have any strange behaviors such as lining up toys or turning on and off light switches or making weird mouth noises or flapping his arms? he can stay occupied with like little army men, puzzles, </p><p> </p><p>Does he basically just not "get" life? I think he sort of gets certain aspects, but not most of them.</p><p> </p><p>Does he see you and hub as peers rather than authority figures (this is very common on the autism spectrum). </p><p> </p><p>Does he have a flat, monotone voice and demeanor? most of the time, yes, but sometimes he seems to interact "normally" with the girls, laughing and playing. </p><p> </p><p>There's also something that I can't put my finger on that makes me feel uncomfortable with him around the girls &/or their friends. I caught him once asking his sister for a kiss while she was in the shower. He seemed to be forcing the issue with her and she was not comfortable with it. Not long after that, while they were play-wrestling around, I could have sworn I saw him trying to grope on her and touch her inappropriately. maybe it was just my protectiveness seeing things that really weren't there...but then not too long ago, I found a pair of his sister's dirty panties in his room, under his bed. I hate "assuming" the worst, but I just can't help it. </p><p> </p><p>It's already hard enough to love somone else's child, then throw in the fact that it's not even husband's child....and then on top of that he's so difficult...I want to love him unconditionally, but I just can't seem to do that. I feel just awful about it...and I've tried so hard...I just can't. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/sick.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sick:" title="sick :sick:" data-shortname=":sick:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="amy76lee, post: 220652, member: 6469"] Thank you. You just validated what I have been thinking for awhile now...through my own research online and it's also just a gut feeling that I'm having I guess. I've scheduled difficult child for another evaluation with his pcm and I will ask about the neuropsychologist while we're there. family history is a little hard to get. husband is not difficult child's biological father...his DEX does not know who the real father is, so we have no idea of history for the paternal side. As for difficult child's mother, he is an exact replica of her, according to husband. I can only assume that she has psychiatric problems, but they are not documented. She tends to pursue self-destructive behaviors (drugs/alcohol/abusive relationships/etc) and then seek out sympathy from others. How was his early development? unsure of early development. Did he make good eye contact? i know that he does not now. we have to constantly remind him to "look at me" when we're talking. Did he speak on time? unsure Did he EVER interact appropriately with his same-age peers? unsure Did he have any strange behaviors such as lining up toys or turning on and off light switches or making weird mouth noises or flapping his arms? he can stay occupied with like little army men, puzzles, Does he basically just not "get" life? I think he sort of gets certain aspects, but not most of them. Does he see you and hub as peers rather than authority figures (this is very common on the autism spectrum). Does he have a flat, monotone voice and demeanor? most of the time, yes, but sometimes he seems to interact "normally" with the girls, laughing and playing. There's also something that I can't put my finger on that makes me feel uncomfortable with him around the girls &/or their friends. I caught him once asking his sister for a kiss while she was in the shower. He seemed to be forcing the issue with her and she was not comfortable with it. Not long after that, while they were play-wrestling around, I could have sworn I saw him trying to grope on her and touch her inappropriately. maybe it was just my protectiveness seeing things that really weren't there...but then not too long ago, I found a pair of his sister's dirty panties in his room, under his bed. I hate "assuming" the worst, but I just can't help it. It's already hard enough to love somone else's child, then throw in the fact that it's not even husband's child....and then on top of that he's so difficult...I want to love him unconditionally, but I just can't seem to do that. I feel just awful about it...and I've tried so hard...I just can't. :sick: [/QUOTE]
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