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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 179862" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Oh Carla - reading this just brought tears to my eyes. Welcome and I'm so glad you found us.</p><p> </p><p>We need to have a serious chat about the school situation but that can wait. Let me just say that with the # of suspensions, an IEP should be a no-brainer, but some school districts (SDs) can be really dense. Principal suggesting home schooling was in my humble opinion borderline illegal - but again, not something you need to address right this minute. Once your little guy gets stablized, we have an excellent sped 101 forum to help guide you through the process with the SD.</p><p> </p><p>I think admitting him was right on, but I know it must be breaking your heart. I hope that the treating psychiatrist will be able to get a handle on what is going on. Also, when it comes time to start discharge planning, the hospital therapist/SW should be working with you on resources once he's home. I think without question he needs to have a psychiatrist to monitor medications, as well as his therapist. I would get recommendations from hospital staff. If treating psychiatrist sees kids outpatient (and you like him/her), I'd try to follow up with him for continuity of care. Some states have better community resources than others but things to ask for would be respite care and crisis team intervention.</p><p> </p><p>We're not docs and we certainly don't have all the answers. We bring to the board our own biases bases on our experiences. Take what you can use, and skip the rest. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> My bias would be to not jump to Prozac but to ask about a mood stabilizer, especially since there's a family history of mood disorders. I'm very very leery of antidepressants in kiddos but again, that's just my bias having a kiddo who is bipolar. I would hope that hospital will do full psychiatric testing on him and come up with a plan (pharmacologic and therapeutic) to help him function better.</p><p> </p><p>What you need to be doing today is some self-care. Truly truly, I understand how distraught you are, but he is in a safe place, receiving treatment and being well supervised. You need to take care of yourself right now - it's not selfish, it's survival. The very best thing you can do for him right now is build yourself back up so that you're strong (emotionally and physically) when he comes home.</p><p> </p><p>You also need to keep reminding yourself that THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT! None of us entered parenthood as perfect people, and none of us have been perfect parents. We learn as we go. If you've given your best, tried your hardest, and made changes you needed to make to be better (which it certainly sounds you have), then you're doing okay. "The Explosive Child" is one of the basics here on the board - excellent book with really good strategies. I also loved that it gave a bit of insight into the thinking of our challenging kids.</p><p> </p><p>Again - take care of yourself today, hon. Welcome!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 179862, member: 8"] Oh Carla - reading this just brought tears to my eyes. Welcome and I'm so glad you found us. We need to have a serious chat about the school situation but that can wait. Let me just say that with the # of suspensions, an IEP should be a no-brainer, but some school districts (SDs) can be really dense. Principal suggesting home schooling was in my humble opinion borderline illegal - but again, not something you need to address right this minute. Once your little guy gets stablized, we have an excellent sped 101 forum to help guide you through the process with the SD. I think admitting him was right on, but I know it must be breaking your heart. I hope that the treating psychiatrist will be able to get a handle on what is going on. Also, when it comes time to start discharge planning, the hospital therapist/SW should be working with you on resources once he's home. I think without question he needs to have a psychiatrist to monitor medications, as well as his therapist. I would get recommendations from hospital staff. If treating psychiatrist sees kids outpatient (and you like him/her), I'd try to follow up with him for continuity of care. Some states have better community resources than others but things to ask for would be respite care and crisis team intervention. We're not docs and we certainly don't have all the answers. We bring to the board our own biases bases on our experiences. Take what you can use, and skip the rest. ;) My bias would be to not jump to Prozac but to ask about a mood stabilizer, especially since there's a family history of mood disorders. I'm very very leery of antidepressants in kiddos but again, that's just my bias having a kiddo who is bipolar. I would hope that hospital will do full psychiatric testing on him and come up with a plan (pharmacologic and therapeutic) to help him function better. What you need to be doing today is some self-care. Truly truly, I understand how distraught you are, but he is in a safe place, receiving treatment and being well supervised. You need to take care of yourself right now - it's not selfish, it's survival. The very best thing you can do for him right now is build yourself back up so that you're strong (emotionally and physically) when he comes home. You also need to keep reminding yourself that THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT! None of us entered parenthood as perfect people, and none of us have been perfect parents. We learn as we go. If you've given your best, tried your hardest, and made changes you needed to make to be better (which it certainly sounds you have), then you're doing okay. "The Explosive Child" is one of the basics here on the board - excellent book with really good strategies. I also loved that it gave a bit of insight into the thinking of our challenging kids. Again - take care of yourself today, hon. Welcome!! [/QUOTE]
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