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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 180783" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Have you hear of "Fight or Flight"? You yourself may be facing this right now. So much is coming at you - you are so overwhelmed that your body wants you to either come out swinging or run away. The problem is you do not know what/how you are suppose to swing at and you do not want to run and hide because you have a child to protect.</p><p> </p><p>"Fight or Flight" usually doesn't work well. They are extreme actions to get you out of an uncomfortable situation. When you don't know how to react, you just get more and more overwhelmed.</p><p> </p><p>To get rid of that feeling, you need to calm yourself down. Put EVERYTHING to the side for a moment and relax. Find the activity that helps you relax - sometimes it is going to a movie, sometimes it is breathing exercises (deep breathe in and slow breath out), sometimes it is a massage, sometimes it is a good nap or night's sleep, sometimes it is playing wth your baby. Tell yourself that you can not solve any problems at the moment - you will tackle the problems in a little bit and then focus on calming down.</p><p> </p><p>O.K. Once you are calm, deal with only one issue at a time. "For 15 minutes, I am only going to think about getting laundry done" or "For the next 30 minutes, I am only going to focus on giving my little one some attention." You are only one person and can do only so much. Ask for help from everyone around. Setting up a daily schedule or to do list may also help (include one on one time with the baby on the list). So, when you start to become overwhelmed, look at the list and take one item to work on.</p><p> </p><p>Time for you to regroup - be selfish - whatever it takes - it may take an entire day of focusing just on you but it will be worth it. You will be so much stronger for it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 180783, member: 5096"] Have you hear of "Fight or Flight"? You yourself may be facing this right now. So much is coming at you - you are so overwhelmed that your body wants you to either come out swinging or run away. The problem is you do not know what/how you are suppose to swing at and you do not want to run and hide because you have a child to protect. "Fight or Flight" usually doesn't work well. They are extreme actions to get you out of an uncomfortable situation. When you don't know how to react, you just get more and more overwhelmed. To get rid of that feeling, you need to calm yourself down. Put EVERYTHING to the side for a moment and relax. Find the activity that helps you relax - sometimes it is going to a movie, sometimes it is breathing exercises (deep breathe in and slow breath out), sometimes it is a massage, sometimes it is a good nap or night's sleep, sometimes it is playing wth your baby. Tell yourself that you can not solve any problems at the moment - you will tackle the problems in a little bit and then focus on calming down. O.K. Once you are calm, deal with only one issue at a time. "For 15 minutes, I am only going to think about getting laundry done" or "For the next 30 minutes, I am only going to focus on giving my little one some attention." You are only one person and can do only so much. Ask for help from everyone around. Setting up a daily schedule or to do list may also help (include one on one time with the baby on the list). So, when you start to become overwhelmed, look at the list and take one item to work on. Time for you to regroup - be selfish - whatever it takes - it may take an entire day of focusing just on you but it will be worth it. You will be so much stronger for it. [/QUOTE]
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