Hi- I'm new to these forums, but found these through a search engine and thought that I'd probably fit right in. I'm a single mom of two 17 year olds (yep, twins) that are very defiant and extremely difficult to live with. We've been dealing with with anger/depression issues now for around 3 years and for the past year or so, have found out that they are also pot smokers. I realize that kids go through their phases are experimenting, but this has gone well beyond experimentation. This seems to be all they care about. Where are they going to get it next, when, etc. I've actually seen people drive by our house to sell and I have literally gotten in my vehicle and chased them away. We've been to numerous counselors, psychiatrists, etc., and have not been successful. We are now seeing another counselor who actually specializes in substance abuse, so I'm hopeful with that. Fortunately, this is court-ordered so I don't have to catch the flack from them about having to go. At this point, they are very angry and blame me for everything. I'm so concerned because they have absolutely no aspirations for anything. Their grades became so bad this year, that we were going to have add on another year of school, so we've opted for the GED program. That was the only thing I could do to avoid them dropping out completely. One of them has recently been diagnosed as bi-polar and is now taking seroquel. He's more mellow, but not willing to give up his habit. I have so many emotions inside of me: anger, frustration, sadness, fear (not of them, but for them). My life is a constant roller coaster of avoiding them, fighting with them, or just closing myself off. I have friends who are understanding as they can be, but I've learned that until you are the one that is actually dealing with this type of situation, you can't really know how the other person is feeling. Hence, I'm hoping that someone on here can relate and just offer some moral support. It's hard sometimes to talk to people who's kids are doing so well and not be a bit "green". Sorry for the long ramble! Thanks!