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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 171361" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>"I see my boy in him again and feel bad for him"</p><p>You are doing the best thing for him by not enabling him and giving him the satisfaction that he has sucked you back in (He seems to be pretty good at that). He takes advantage of your weakness and will only get away with it if you let him. Stay strong Stands, You have come a long ways. I heard this person on the radio the other day that has a disabled child. It was a Mom that was overpowered by emotion everytime she saw that her child was having difficulty accomplishing what most kids his age have no problem doing. In the end the conclusion was that she has not accepted the fact that her child is who he is (Developmentally impaired) but was advised to just go the extra mile to aid with his success and be proud of the accomplishments that he does succeed in. Stands, You have gone the extra mile and provided all of the tools necessary with the hopes that he would grasp on and make better choices. You see he (Your son) has that ability, This Moms child does not.</p><p></p><p>I also am a Mom that has raised up my son that is now 21 and severely disabled. He has Cerebral Palsy and requires hands on for his every need to include diapering, Bathing, Feeding via G-Tube as his only source of nutrition, Seizure disorder, Cortical Blind, Non verbal, Although we do have our own way of communicating, (OMG He laughs allot, Lol!!) He cannot walk and requires a wheelchair as well as me being his lift system to get him to and from rather it be transferring to his wheelchair or car seat or positioning around the house. I have accepted him for who he is and caring for him has become my way of life and I am ok with it. I could not see it any other way. I am his Mom. I guess where I am going with this is when I look at him I see a man that was cheated out of a normal life but not by choice. He contracted meningitus from another infant in the hospital when he was two days old. I think to myself about all of the kids and adults that are physically and mentally capable of living a good life but yet choose the wrong path. It saddens me because some can very well end up in their grave or end up having to be cared for by another because of the brain damage that had been self inflicted by the abuse of drugs and it was all by choice. I am hoping that someday your son sees the light and becomes a happy healthy productive citizen within society, I do not know your son personally but I think he is capable once he takes responsibility and decides that he no longer wants the life with drugs. Anything is possible. I say this of course knowing that there are some people that do have true mental issues that hinder their ability to cope and some do turn to drugs. But I also think that some people use that as an excuse to justify the way of life that they choose. Your son knows right from wrong and has the ability to do something different, My son does not have a choice due to his severe disabilities that were in no way his choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 171361, member: 2727"] "I see my boy in him again and feel bad for him" You are doing the best thing for him by not enabling him and giving him the satisfaction that he has sucked you back in (He seems to be pretty good at that). He takes advantage of your weakness and will only get away with it if you let him. Stay strong Stands, You have come a long ways. I heard this person on the radio the other day that has a disabled child. It was a Mom that was overpowered by emotion everytime she saw that her child was having difficulty accomplishing what most kids his age have no problem doing. In the end the conclusion was that she has not accepted the fact that her child is who he is (Developmentally impaired) but was advised to just go the extra mile to aid with his success and be proud of the accomplishments that he does succeed in. Stands, You have gone the extra mile and provided all of the tools necessary with the hopes that he would grasp on and make better choices. You see he (Your son) has that ability, This Moms child does not. I also am a Mom that has raised up my son that is now 21 and severely disabled. He has Cerebral Palsy and requires hands on for his every need to include diapering, Bathing, Feeding via G-Tube as his only source of nutrition, Seizure disorder, Cortical Blind, Non verbal, Although we do have our own way of communicating, (OMG He laughs allot, Lol!!) He cannot walk and requires a wheelchair as well as me being his lift system to get him to and from rather it be transferring to his wheelchair or car seat or positioning around the house. I have accepted him for who he is and caring for him has become my way of life and I am ok with it. I could not see it any other way. I am his Mom. I guess where I am going with this is when I look at him I see a man that was cheated out of a normal life but not by choice. He contracted meningitus from another infant in the hospital when he was two days old. I think to myself about all of the kids and adults that are physically and mentally capable of living a good life but yet choose the wrong path. It saddens me because some can very well end up in their grave or end up having to be cared for by another because of the brain damage that had been self inflicted by the abuse of drugs and it was all by choice. I am hoping that someday your son sees the light and becomes a happy healthy productive citizen within society, I do not know your son personally but I think he is capable once he takes responsibility and decides that he no longer wants the life with drugs. Anything is possible. I say this of course knowing that there are some people that do have true mental issues that hinder their ability to cope and some do turn to drugs. But I also think that some people use that as an excuse to justify the way of life that they choose. Your son knows right from wrong and has the ability to do something different, My son does not have a choice due to his severe disabilities that were in no way his choice. [/QUOTE]
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