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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 165738" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hi Lambsear and welcome!!!</p><p> </p><p>Honestly, for a second there, I thought my son had moved in with you!! Not motivated at all though he has grand future plans. When I explain to him that he cannot possibly graduate HS (one of his plans) if he doesn't actually *attend* school, I'm just being a (insert curse word of the day). </p><p> </p><p>To be honest, I have to agree with your husband. 18 and out. Just based on my own incredibly frustrating experience with my son (who knows everything and refuses to accept that he has a very serious mental illness that really distorts his thinking) there is no way to *make* a 17-year-old do a doggone thing. In IL, school isn't compulsory at age 17 so we can't even force that issue anymore - other than working with SD on when they will actually drop him from the rolls. For my son, when he is out of HS, he loses funding for treatment and someplace to live (return home is out of the question due to violence). He's impressively unconcerned.</p><p> </p><p>Gosh - I've retyped this about a gazillion times because I'm not seeing anything hopeful in here. I guess our hope is that reality will break through to our son when he has to do it on his own and that then he will more willing to participate in treatment.</p><p> </p><p>We see that our kids have the potential to be productive independent adults but we're also stymied by their defiance and refusal to participate - in school, in treatment, in their own lives. I may just be running on empty at this stage in my son's life (so maybe you should ignore me <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> ) but I honestly don't know how we can do anything meaningful to get our almost "adult" boys on a better track.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway - I'm so glad you found us. We have a wide variety of experiences and opinions here - hopefully you will find something you can use! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 165738, member: 8"] Hi Lambsear and welcome!!! Honestly, for a second there, I thought my son had moved in with you!! Not motivated at all though he has grand future plans. When I explain to him that he cannot possibly graduate HS (one of his plans) if he doesn't actually *attend* school, I'm just being a (insert curse word of the day). To be honest, I have to agree with your husband. 18 and out. Just based on my own incredibly frustrating experience with my son (who knows everything and refuses to accept that he has a very serious mental illness that really distorts his thinking) there is no way to *make* a 17-year-old do a doggone thing. In IL, school isn't compulsory at age 17 so we can't even force that issue anymore - other than working with SD on when they will actually drop him from the rolls. For my son, when he is out of HS, he loses funding for treatment and someplace to live (return home is out of the question due to violence). He's impressively unconcerned. Gosh - I've retyped this about a gazillion times because I'm not seeing anything hopeful in here. I guess our hope is that reality will break through to our son when he has to do it on his own and that then he will more willing to participate in treatment. We see that our kids have the potential to be productive independent adults but we're also stymied by their defiance and refusal to participate - in school, in treatment, in their own lives. I may just be running on empty at this stage in my son's life (so maybe you should ignore me ;) ) but I honestly don't know how we can do anything meaningful to get our almost "adult" boys on a better track. Anyway - I'm so glad you found us. We have a wide variety of experiences and opinions here - hopefully you will find something you can use! :) [/QUOTE]
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