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New here- 7 y/o son with ADHD/ODD, tearing us apart.
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<blockquote data-quote="fightingthetide" data-source="post: 498259" data-attributes="member: 13610"><p>@Malika, feel free to use all of your British colloquialisms! Love it! And...I do have the Douglas Riley book And (bonus)it is on my shelf! </p><p></p><p>We have tried different behavior/reward systems. The motivation factor does not seem to stick for very long, and the "system" becomes worthless. We try to praise ANY positive behavior. </p><p></p><p>I have a problem with giving attention to the negative behavior. For example, if you attack your brother and get sent to your room. Then have a complete meltdown. This does not warrant a 25 minute discussion in the room with the child. The time out isnt over then either. Am I missing something? Please, please tell me if I am. Because I am under the impression that this is the exact way to play into the ODD kids power struggle. </p><p></p><p>We try to maintain a fairly structured schedule, with bedtime routines, morning routines, and some basic expectations around the house. I don't think that our house is particularly rigid with rules, but mostly, our requests are met with opposition, anger, and hostility. Then there are those moments when he can be sweet! Rare, but he is in there somewhere!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="fightingthetide, post: 498259, member: 13610"] @Malika, feel free to use all of your British colloquialisms! Love it! And...I do have the Douglas Riley book And (bonus)it is on my shelf! We have tried different behavior/reward systems. The motivation factor does not seem to stick for very long, and the "system" becomes worthless. We try to praise ANY positive behavior. I have a problem with giving attention to the negative behavior. For example, if you attack your brother and get sent to your room. Then have a complete meltdown. This does not warrant a 25 minute discussion in the room with the child. The time out isnt over then either. Am I missing something? Please, please tell me if I am. Because I am under the impression that this is the exact way to play into the ODD kids power struggle. We try to maintain a fairly structured schedule, with bedtime routines, morning routines, and some basic expectations around the house. I don't think that our house is particularly rigid with rules, but mostly, our requests are met with opposition, anger, and hostility. Then there are those moments when he can be sweet! Rare, but he is in there somewhere! [/QUOTE]
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