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New here- 7 y/o son with ADHD/ODD, tearing us apart.
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 498389" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Does he have neighbor friends or afterschool activities? If so, how does that go? With a little tongue in cheek, sometimes I think that if both parents get on the same page it doesn't even matter if it is the right page. Personally I tend to think that difficult child's recognize the difference in personality, methods etc. and are often driven to capitalize on the subtle break between parents...like a "mini" power struggle.</p><p></p><p>I strongly support N/P exams but I also have seen numerous cases where the difficult child child is capable of participating in discussions on "How Can We Make Our Family and Our Home A Better Place For All Of Us?"Most of the time, in my humble opinion, kids want to be happy and sometimes they actually (when calm, of course) can contribute to the peacekeeping methods. Has he ever suggested changes? Just curious. As someone else noted some kids need a quieter environment, a scheduled after school snack, an earlier bedtime etc. Most I have found absolutely need to know what's going to happen each day. Alot have had to eliminate sharing errands, for example, as a quick trip to the store can result in meltdowns. Many of us have had to set a pretty rigid schedule so the difficult child's didn't have to be anxious about simple stuff like "when is dinner?"</p><p></p><p>Have you begun to keep a journal yet? It's a pain in the neck, lol, but using a notebook and jotting down daily notes can often make a pattern more readable. It is also very helpful when you are seeking outside help to be able to show that difficult child has a pattern of exploding (for example) at bedtime? or right after school? or before dinner. It doesn't take too much time but I think that is a diagnostic tool not only for the professionals...but for the Mom. Living life often keeps us on the go and we just don't "see" that there is a pattern. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 498389, member: 35"] Does he have neighbor friends or afterschool activities? If so, how does that go? With a little tongue in cheek, sometimes I think that if both parents get on the same page it doesn't even matter if it is the right page. Personally I tend to think that difficult child's recognize the difference in personality, methods etc. and are often driven to capitalize on the subtle break between parents...like a "mini" power struggle. I strongly support N/P exams but I also have seen numerous cases where the difficult child child is capable of participating in discussions on "How Can We Make Our Family and Our Home A Better Place For All Of Us?"Most of the time, in my humble opinion, kids want to be happy and sometimes they actually (when calm, of course) can contribute to the peacekeeping methods. Has he ever suggested changes? Just curious. As someone else noted some kids need a quieter environment, a scheduled after school snack, an earlier bedtime etc. Most I have found absolutely need to know what's going to happen each day. Alot have had to eliminate sharing errands, for example, as a quick trip to the store can result in meltdowns. Many of us have had to set a pretty rigid schedule so the difficult child's didn't have to be anxious about simple stuff like "when is dinner?" Have you begun to keep a journal yet? It's a pain in the neck, lol, but using a notebook and jotting down daily notes can often make a pattern more readable. It is also very helpful when you are seeking outside help to be able to show that difficult child has a pattern of exploding (for example) at bedtime? or right after school? or before dinner. It doesn't take too much time but I think that is a diagnostic tool not only for the professionals...but for the Mom. Living life often keeps us on the go and we just don't "see" that there is a pattern. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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