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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 234642" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>I really believe that to help a child move forward, you have to meet them where they're at, so if he needs constant supervision at this time to get ready for school, that's what needs to happen. I would encourage you to look into the neurological reasons behind that difficulty which can be caused by reasons such as auditory processing problems which make it difficult/impossible to follow multistep instructions or executive function issues. The better handle you have on the "why" behind the actions, the better off you will be to help him. </p><p> </p><p>Have you had him evaluated by the public school and put together an IEP? You are right in that they won't be tolerant of tardies and absences due to anxiety, should that continue. Given the behaviors you are seeing at home, it would probably be a good idea if you haven't already.</p><p> </p><p>Some practical helps:</p><p>One of my best strategies for dealing with the morning was to sit everyone down for a hot breakfast together and reading to them while they're eating. It infuses some calm in most mornings. </p><p> </p><p>If your room has become a dumping ground, it's time to put a lock on the outside. Boys who trash rooms aren't welcome inside.</p><p> </p><p>When in a rush in the morning, sometimes the simplest distraction--such as offering a TicTac or Tootsie Roll while you tie shoes--can be a huge help.</p><p> </p><p>Take a close look at the items he has to use daily--shoes, socks, clothing, backpack, coat. If any of these are giving him problems on a routine basis, change them so they work better. ie If the winter coat is a daily battle ground, go to layers of sweatshirts/fleece coat</p><p> </p><p>I also recommend The Explosive Child to help you to learn how to deal with him in ways that might help reduce the ongoing defiance.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 234642, member: 701"] I really believe that to help a child move forward, you have to meet them where they're at, so if he needs constant supervision at this time to get ready for school, that's what needs to happen. I would encourage you to look into the neurological reasons behind that difficulty which can be caused by reasons such as auditory processing problems which make it difficult/impossible to follow multistep instructions or executive function issues. The better handle you have on the "why" behind the actions, the better off you will be to help him. Have you had him evaluated by the public school and put together an IEP? You are right in that they won't be tolerant of tardies and absences due to anxiety, should that continue. Given the behaviors you are seeing at home, it would probably be a good idea if you haven't already. Some practical helps: One of my best strategies for dealing with the morning was to sit everyone down for a hot breakfast together and reading to them while they're eating. It infuses some calm in most mornings. If your room has become a dumping ground, it's time to put a lock on the outside. Boys who trash rooms aren't welcome inside. When in a rush in the morning, sometimes the simplest distraction--such as offering a TicTac or Tootsie Roll while you tie shoes--can be a huge help. Take a close look at the items he has to use daily--shoes, socks, clothing, backpack, coat. If any of these are giving him problems on a routine basis, change them so they work better. ie If the winter coat is a daily battle ground, go to layers of sweatshirts/fleece coat I also recommend The Explosive Child to help you to learn how to deal with him in ways that might help reduce the ongoing defiance. [/QUOTE]
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