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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 409330" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Eliza - </p><p> </p><p>Welcome (this is a joke in our house - but - IS THAT A WEIMERINER?) - We actually have an American Bulldog - but someone asked us long ago if he was a Weimeriner and the joke just stuck. Sorry....And his teeth?! So perfect. lol </p><p> </p><p>Ahhh....what a wonderful life having to be the Mother of a person who is being abused huh? I wouldn't know. I have/had boys. I (sadly) was the abused. I didn't go home, and didn't really let my family know much. I think towards the end they had a good idea, but even now? I couldn't ever tell my Mom hardly anything I went through. One? She wouldn't understand and Two - I would never put her through it. That being said, since your daughter continually chooses to be in and out of your life and uses your Granddaughter as a pawn? My thoughts are that if you don't make a choice now? This situation will only get worse for you. </p><p> </p><p>I do think contacting CPS is a good move, but like Janet said once you get in the system? You're in. That can be good or annoying depending. Our friends here fought for custody of their Granddaughters and you can not imagine the conditions under which these two little girls were kept (if you can even call it that) shuttled back and forth like livestock, not kept clothed, clean, fed - it was horrible. They were premies, and she smoked around them, was in and out of jail, had problems with different men all the time and basically the Grandmother was raising the little girls most of the time unless the Mother 'needed' the girls for whatever it was that suited her. And the courts would not give custody, but CPS dogged the Grandmother about the Mother and the Grandmothers house, her dogs, her way of life. In the end custody was given to the Mother. Know who the girls live with today? Grandma. Grandma takes them to school, lessons, buys their clothes, feeds them, everything. Where is Mom? Laying up with another man - somewhere. It's absurd. They tried to get the Mother certified as mentally ill - that didn't happen. She just got a quicky exam and some pills, a few therapy sessions. it's obvious she's got problems. We were all just astounded. </p><p> </p><p>I do hope you have a chance to talk to a Domestic Violence counselor. Not for yourself -but it may give you some keen insight and some really good advice on how to approach your daughter and what is going on in her head and maybe how to not so much reason with her but maybe the next time you do talk to her? At least level with her about the care of your Granddaughter. If your choice is to NOT turn your back on them? Then my thoughts would be - At LEAST know how to stay one step ahead and know what you are getting yourself into, or what would come next in the cycle of abuse for your sake and the babies. </p><p> </p><p>Best of Luck to you and your girls. </p><p>Hugs </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 409330, member: 4964"] Eliza - Welcome (this is a joke in our house - but - IS THAT A WEIMERINER?) - We actually have an American Bulldog - but someone asked us long ago if he was a Weimeriner and the joke just stuck. Sorry....And his teeth?! So perfect. lol Ahhh....what a wonderful life having to be the Mother of a person who is being abused huh? I wouldn't know. I have/had boys. I (sadly) was the abused. I didn't go home, and didn't really let my family know much. I think towards the end they had a good idea, but even now? I couldn't ever tell my Mom hardly anything I went through. One? She wouldn't understand and Two - I would never put her through it. That being said, since your daughter continually chooses to be in and out of your life and uses your Granddaughter as a pawn? My thoughts are that if you don't make a choice now? This situation will only get worse for you. I do think contacting CPS is a good move, but like Janet said once you get in the system? You're in. That can be good or annoying depending. Our friends here fought for custody of their Granddaughters and you can not imagine the conditions under which these two little girls were kept (if you can even call it that) shuttled back and forth like livestock, not kept clothed, clean, fed - it was horrible. They were premies, and she smoked around them, was in and out of jail, had problems with different men all the time and basically the Grandmother was raising the little girls most of the time unless the Mother 'needed' the girls for whatever it was that suited her. And the courts would not give custody, but CPS dogged the Grandmother about the Mother and the Grandmothers house, her dogs, her way of life. In the end custody was given to the Mother. Know who the girls live with today? Grandma. Grandma takes them to school, lessons, buys their clothes, feeds them, everything. Where is Mom? Laying up with another man - somewhere. It's absurd. They tried to get the Mother certified as mentally ill - that didn't happen. She just got a quicky exam and some pills, a few therapy sessions. it's obvious she's got problems. We were all just astounded. I do hope you have a chance to talk to a Domestic Violence counselor. Not for yourself -but it may give you some keen insight and some really good advice on how to approach your daughter and what is going on in her head and maybe how to not so much reason with her but maybe the next time you do talk to her? At least level with her about the care of your Granddaughter. If your choice is to NOT turn your back on them? Then my thoughts would be - At LEAST know how to stay one step ahead and know what you are getting yourself into, or what would come next in the cycle of abuse for your sake and the babies. Best of Luck to you and your girls. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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