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<blockquote data-quote="STRESSEDTOMAX" data-source="post: 609626" data-attributes="member: 3512"><p>I have to agree with Insane...lol. The child you are describing sounds ALOT like my son, who has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), ODD, severe ADD, and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). He is 12 but his meltdowns started at around two. It's been a long, long, battle. The one thing that is not similar, though, is that he almost always feels remorseful after meltdowns. I really believe it is - for the most part - out of his control. Last year, he missed almost a whole year of school, for various reasons. We are beyond thrilled that this year he has been there every day with minimal problems - he is in two resource classes, which seems to have made a huge difference. HOWEVER - as school has improved, behavior at home has deteriorated. He seems much more easily agitated/frustrated and meltdowns have become more frequent when he doesn't get what he wants, which no one can get all the time. My walls have many holes in them. As far as the ipad/video game issue, here are my thoughts: During the summer, he was very addicted to Xbox and I was really getting concerned but I figured that he has so much difficulty socializing with peers, that I allowed it. I'm happy to say that like everything else, his interest in it has now decreased dramatically...not exactly sure why. Now the Ipad is definitely an issue for me. I regret ever buying it. All he really uses it for is to look up places he wants to go and things he wants. And, of course, he wants them NOW. What I compare this to is me walking into a store and being overwhelmed by all the stuff and wanting everything that an hour ago I didn't even know existed. I finally followed my gut and took it from him two days ago after he put another hole in the wall and so far - although he has used my phone a bit - he's not throwing a fit over it. I'm not sure I'm returning it. My feeling is that it makes his life and our lives worse. Just one more thought: Boredom. He gets SO much anxiety if he doesn't have something to do that it drives him and us nuts. My sister told me yesterday that she was reading a book on addictions that said boredom is a prime symptom, which worries me but makes sense. He has had to be entertained since about two and it's exhausting. So...my gut feeling on what you've posted thus far is that while I TOTALLY get how you're feeling - because I'm living it - there's definitely something more going on here and he needs help. Does he have friends? How does he do with social cues? any hygiene problems?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="STRESSEDTOMAX, post: 609626, member: 3512"] I have to agree with Insane...lol. The child you are describing sounds ALOT like my son, who has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), ODD, severe ADD, and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). He is 12 but his meltdowns started at around two. It's been a long, long, battle. The one thing that is not similar, though, is that he almost always feels remorseful after meltdowns. I really believe it is - for the most part - out of his control. Last year, he missed almost a whole year of school, for various reasons. We are beyond thrilled that this year he has been there every day with minimal problems - he is in two resource classes, which seems to have made a huge difference. HOWEVER - as school has improved, behavior at home has deteriorated. He seems much more easily agitated/frustrated and meltdowns have become more frequent when he doesn't get what he wants, which no one can get all the time. My walls have many holes in them. As far as the ipad/video game issue, here are my thoughts: During the summer, he was very addicted to Xbox and I was really getting concerned but I figured that he has so much difficulty socializing with peers, that I allowed it. I'm happy to say that like everything else, his interest in it has now decreased dramatically...not exactly sure why. Now the Ipad is definitely an issue for me. I regret ever buying it. All he really uses it for is to look up places he wants to go and things he wants. And, of course, he wants them NOW. What I compare this to is me walking into a store and being overwhelmed by all the stuff and wanting everything that an hour ago I didn't even know existed. I finally followed my gut and took it from him two days ago after he put another hole in the wall and so far - although he has used my phone a bit - he's not throwing a fit over it. I'm not sure I'm returning it. My feeling is that it makes his life and our lives worse. Just one more thought: Boredom. He gets SO much anxiety if he doesn't have something to do that it drives him and us nuts. My sister told me yesterday that she was reading a book on addictions that said boredom is a prime symptom, which worries me but makes sense. He has had to be entertained since about two and it's exhausting. So...my gut feeling on what you've posted thus far is that while I TOTALLY get how you're feeling - because I'm living it - there's definitely something more going on here and he needs help. Does he have friends? How does he do with social cues? any hygiene problems? [/QUOTE]
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