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<blockquote data-quote="2daughters" data-source="post: 262170" data-attributes="member: 7134"><p>I haven't tried the melatonin for her sleeping yet because I've been warned off it. I have tried giving her cold chammomile tea a few hours before bed, which did help until she decided that she didn't like the taste of it.</p><p></p><p>I've talked to my husband about the kitchen play set. He'd already bought it, and it's sitting in the garage in its box still. I explained to my daughter that she can get that after she has 30 good days. I told her that each day she has a good day, she'll get to pick out a toy. Once all those toys are gone, she'll be able to get the kitchen. The "rules" that are in place for that are 30 "good days", each day getting rewarded, and once those toys are gone then she's entitled to the kitchen. I don't expect perfection from her, or for her to be able to go 30 consecutive days without having a meltdown.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I have talked at length about how to properly discipline her, and how to pick our battles. I've noticed, with myself anyway, that I'm starting to be able to tell the difference more between a typical child's behavior and her having melt downs. Unfortunately for myself, one of her meltdowns happened while a neighbor was around and I got quite a bit of the "you're not punishing her properly, if she was my child I'd ..." I tried to explain a bit about the ODD to the neighbor, and in his defense he did try to understand it, but that day ended up with me in tears and having my own melt down in private. husband and I are really piling on the praise for the good behavior, and giving rewards as often as possible for them. The bad behavior from her gets analyzed closer and if it's not a fight worth fighting then we just let it go. We do get a lot of raised eyebrows from people but that doesn't bother me as much anymore.</p><p></p><p>We've actually just had a couple of really long days away from home, and she's done really good with them. I wasn't able to give her much warning ahead of time, so I was a little nervous about how she'd react to them. Normally on long trips (one of them we were in the vehicle for 10 hours) they start off pretty good for the first hour and then she seems to get really annoyed. husband and I managed to keep it all positive the entire time, and let her have some input into what she'd like to see as well. The second trip wasn't as long as the first one, but she still didn't have any major meltdowns and was quite pleasant to be around. She ended up getting the new runners she's had her eye on for a bit, and she got a day full of treats as well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2daughters, post: 262170, member: 7134"] I haven't tried the melatonin for her sleeping yet because I've been warned off it. I have tried giving her cold chammomile tea a few hours before bed, which did help until she decided that she didn't like the taste of it. I've talked to my husband about the kitchen play set. He'd already bought it, and it's sitting in the garage in its box still. I explained to my daughter that she can get that after she has 30 good days. I told her that each day she has a good day, she'll get to pick out a toy. Once all those toys are gone, she'll be able to get the kitchen. The "rules" that are in place for that are 30 "good days", each day getting rewarded, and once those toys are gone then she's entitled to the kitchen. I don't expect perfection from her, or for her to be able to go 30 consecutive days without having a meltdown. My husband and I have talked at length about how to properly discipline her, and how to pick our battles. I've noticed, with myself anyway, that I'm starting to be able to tell the difference more between a typical child's behavior and her having melt downs. Unfortunately for myself, one of her meltdowns happened while a neighbor was around and I got quite a bit of the "you're not punishing her properly, if she was my child I'd ..." I tried to explain a bit about the ODD to the neighbor, and in his defense he did try to understand it, but that day ended up with me in tears and having my own melt down in private. husband and I are really piling on the praise for the good behavior, and giving rewards as often as possible for them. The bad behavior from her gets analyzed closer and if it's not a fight worth fighting then we just let it go. We do get a lot of raised eyebrows from people but that doesn't bother me as much anymore. We've actually just had a couple of really long days away from home, and she's done really good with them. I wasn't able to give her much warning ahead of time, so I was a little nervous about how she'd react to them. Normally on long trips (one of them we were in the vehicle for 10 hours) they start off pretty good for the first hour and then she seems to get really annoyed. husband and I managed to keep it all positive the entire time, and let her have some input into what she'd like to see as well. The second trip wasn't as long as the first one, but she still didn't have any major meltdowns and was quite pleasant to be around. She ended up getting the new runners she's had her eye on for a bit, and she got a day full of treats as well. [/QUOTE]
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