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<blockquote data-quote="ksavage" data-source="post: 267555" data-attributes="member: 7296"><p>Yes she was sexually abused in her bio moms care. Left with sitters to young to be babysitting or just left alone with her 5 year old brother. Their home was disgusting, like something off an episode of cops. We couldn't bring any of her clothes or toys with us because of the roaches and lice. They pretty much scavenged for food. Or if she had money she'd buy them some candy. It took the first 2 years just to get all their medical and dental issues worked out. She has not had a nueropsych evaluation or anything. We knew they would have some problems. I mean who wouldn't? However her brother seems to have accepted the fact that his bio mom is gone for good and he's really moved on. He's a normal, happy kid. But my poor step daughter is just so angry. She told me yesterday (after a day of hell) that she knows it's hard for me to deal with her, but its just too hard for her to deal with her bio mom's not loving her anymore. It was such an adult thing for a 7 year old to say and it really floored me. It's the first time she's really acknowledged her bad behavior and the effect it has on others. My problem and what the counselors just cant seem to answer is why now? Why after almost 4 years is she just starting this? Her and her brother went through the exact same things yet he has only blossomed under our care and she has gone the other way. We've talked about getting her in a 30 day residential center. The counselor has advised it but Im not sure if that would help or harm her. She has such a fear of being abandoned, Im afraid it would scare her and make her shut down. Anyway, thanks for the welcome. Im so glad I found this site.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksavage, post: 267555, member: 7296"] Yes she was sexually abused in her bio moms care. Left with sitters to young to be babysitting or just left alone with her 5 year old brother. Their home was disgusting, like something off an episode of cops. We couldn't bring any of her clothes or toys with us because of the roaches and lice. They pretty much scavenged for food. Or if she had money she'd buy them some candy. It took the first 2 years just to get all their medical and dental issues worked out. She has not had a nueropsych evaluation or anything. We knew they would have some problems. I mean who wouldn't? However her brother seems to have accepted the fact that his bio mom is gone for good and he's really moved on. He's a normal, happy kid. But my poor step daughter is just so angry. She told me yesterday (after a day of hell) that she knows it's hard for me to deal with her, but its just too hard for her to deal with her bio mom's not loving her anymore. It was such an adult thing for a 7 year old to say and it really floored me. It's the first time she's really acknowledged her bad behavior and the effect it has on others. My problem and what the counselors just cant seem to answer is why now? Why after almost 4 years is she just starting this? Her and her brother went through the exact same things yet he has only blossomed under our care and she has gone the other way. We've talked about getting her in a 30 day residential center. The counselor has advised it but Im not sure if that would help or harm her. She has such a fear of being abandoned, Im afraid it would scare her and make her shut down. Anyway, thanks for the welcome. Im so glad I found this site. [/QUOTE]
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