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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 206493" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Well, it doesn't get any more in your face than that. You told him what would happen and not only did he test you, he did it rudely. In making him leave, you did what you had to! Good for you! Now he knows that when you say something, you mean it. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You have other, younger children who deserve a home free of chaos and tantrums - and definitely free of drugs. You've done a very difficult thing in telling your oldest to leave, but from everything you've written it was the right thing. Your reasoning is right on - he does need to take responsibility for his actions and he won't learn it by living at home breaking your rules (and the law) and destroying your peace. He may go through bad times before he decides to turn things around, but allowing him to use drugs at home will only prolong those bad times. If and when he tells you he wants to get clean, you can always give him information about local rehab programs. The step you've taken doesn't mean you've given up on him; it just hands responsibility for his actions back to him. </p><p></p><p>Welcome and keep coming back, there are lots of wonderful people here to share and support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 206493, member: 2884"] Well, it doesn't get any more in your face than that. You told him what would happen and not only did he test you, he did it rudely. In making him leave, you did what you had to! Good for you! Now he knows that when you say something, you mean it. You have other, younger children who deserve a home free of chaos and tantrums - and definitely free of drugs. You've done a very difficult thing in telling your oldest to leave, but from everything you've written it was the right thing. Your reasoning is right on - he does need to take responsibility for his actions and he won't learn it by living at home breaking your rules (and the law) and destroying your peace. He may go through bad times before he decides to turn things around, but allowing him to use drugs at home will only prolong those bad times. If and when he tells you he wants to get clean, you can always give him information about local rehab programs. The step you've taken doesn't mean you've given up on him; it just hands responsibility for his actions back to him. Welcome and keep coming back, there are lots of wonderful people here to share and support. [/QUOTE]
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