Hi everyone, I'm new here and just looking for support/advise, I feel like a terrible mother. We've been having some attitude issues with our 18 year old for the past few years. It started with swearing and yelling. We managed to get him through highschool (he did reasonably well, always attended) we just had a hard time with him listening and being disrespectful. Forward to this year, registered him for college, he has still been playing junior hockey(always been athletic) and then he broke up with his girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. He started partying hard, never coming home and then we found pot in his napsack one day (i was pulling out dirty clothes). We told him that under no circumstances did we condone drugs of any kind and if it came in our house again he`d be asked to leave for good (not the first time he`s been out, he left once before when he was told he could yell and scream at us and tell us to F off). Well, he brought pot home again and this time left it on our kitchen table! I have younger children so I was quite upset that they could have found it. I woke him up and told him he had to leave. That was last Sunday and I`ve made up my mind that he cannot come back. Our home is complete chaos when he`s here (yelling, screaming, tantrums), he barely works, he quit college a few weeks back and was barely home. The drugs coming in my house pushed me over the edge. I`m having a hard time with my decision because I don`t know if the pot is a sign of really bad times ahead, but on the other hand I feel like he needs to really grow up and having him here breaking our rules doesn`t teach him anything. Any thoughts please.