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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 160844" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Sounds like your difficult child got her daddy's genes <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>I haven't had to deal with an ODD diagnosis, although my kids all are defiant and oppositional at times. What works most of the time for me is establishing very crystal clear rules/boundaries and very crystal clear consequences for violating those rules/boundaries and being excruciatingly consistent in doling out the consequence each. and. every. time. I think that kids who are "good" outside the home (school, doctor's office) and "horrible" at home are that way because they are in a structured environment where they know exactly how far they can go -- plus, they probably have a little bit of fear of the unknown in them to not try to push boundaries. Home is familiar, and familiarity breeds contempt (sometimes).</p><p> </p><p>If you are a single parent, dealing with these kids with multiple health issues has got to be very taxing on you, which in my experience makes it very hard to have the energy to be firm and consistent all the time. It's exhausting! And so maybe your difficult child has found a kink in your parental armor and is leveraging everything she's got because she's discovered she can. But then again, I don't know much about ODD per se, and I don't know your history.</p><p> </p><p>It might be helpful if you go to the UserCP button on this site and create a signature that has all that relevant info people will naturally want to know. It will help tailor their responses accordingly.</p><p> </p><p>You might also ask the counselor your difficult child is seeing about reading material...</p><p> </p><p>Welcome to the board!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 160844, member: 3444"] Sounds like your difficult child got her daddy's genes :( I haven't had to deal with an ODD diagnosis, although my kids all are defiant and oppositional at times. What works most of the time for me is establishing very crystal clear rules/boundaries and very crystal clear consequences for violating those rules/boundaries and being excruciatingly consistent in doling out the consequence each. and. every. time. I think that kids who are "good" outside the home (school, doctor's office) and "horrible" at home are that way because they are in a structured environment where they know exactly how far they can go -- plus, they probably have a little bit of fear of the unknown in them to not try to push boundaries. Home is familiar, and familiarity breeds contempt (sometimes). If you are a single parent, dealing with these kids with multiple health issues has got to be very taxing on you, which in my experience makes it very hard to have the energy to be firm and consistent all the time. It's exhausting! And so maybe your difficult child has found a kink in your parental armor and is leveraging everything she's got because she's discovered she can. But then again, I don't know much about ODD per se, and I don't know your history. It might be helpful if you go to the UserCP button on this site and create a signature that has all that relevant info people will naturally want to know. It will help tailor their responses accordingly. You might also ask the counselor your difficult child is seeing about reading material... Welcome to the board! [/QUOTE]
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