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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 530111" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Welcome to the board Teatime but I am so sorry you had to find us in this sad situation. I am not sure where you are or what age your son is but I am going to assume you are in the US and your son is in his late teens or early 20's. Honey, I am going to be completely frank with you here and tell you how I see it. You need to put your son out.</p><p></p><p>You say you believe it is your parental responsibility to take care of him now because he has messed up in college. Its not. Your responsibility ended when he turned 18. Now its up to him. You actually went out of your way to get him into college. That was nice of you and he threw it away. Now he has to figure it out on his own.</p><p></p><p>I am also disabled by some severe physical pain conditions and when my son was under age he tried that stealing my pain medication thing. I had to lock them up too. That isnt a fun thing to go through. Unfortunately for me, mine was still under 18 and I had to put up with him. Thankfully he has grown out of it due to a run in with the law where he learned he didnt like what happened when you got a few felonies on his record. Especially thanks to good old mom and learning she finally found her backbone. </p><p></p><p>If I was in your place I would contact a domestic violence center immediately because what he is doing to you is domestic violence. Do not think it isnt. They will help you with getting him out. The next time he so much as raises his voice to you or threatens you or breaks something of yours...call the cops and press charges and have an order of protection put against him. Dont worry a bit about where he goes. That is his problem. He is well old enough to find his own place. Any construction company would hire him no matter what his record is and he could get work. My son works in construction and he doesnt even have a HS diploma.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 530111, member: 1514"] Welcome to the board Teatime but I am so sorry you had to find us in this sad situation. I am not sure where you are or what age your son is but I am going to assume you are in the US and your son is in his late teens or early 20's. Honey, I am going to be completely frank with you here and tell you how I see it. You need to put your son out. You say you believe it is your parental responsibility to take care of him now because he has messed up in college. Its not. Your responsibility ended when he turned 18. Now its up to him. You actually went out of your way to get him into college. That was nice of you and he threw it away. Now he has to figure it out on his own. I am also disabled by some severe physical pain conditions and when my son was under age he tried that stealing my pain medication thing. I had to lock them up too. That isnt a fun thing to go through. Unfortunately for me, mine was still under 18 and I had to put up with him. Thankfully he has grown out of it due to a run in with the law where he learned he didnt like what happened when you got a few felonies on his record. Especially thanks to good old mom and learning she finally found her backbone. If I was in your place I would contact a domestic violence center immediately because what he is doing to you is domestic violence. Do not think it isnt. They will help you with getting him out. The next time he so much as raises his voice to you or threatens you or breaks something of yours...call the cops and press charges and have an order of protection put against him. Dont worry a bit about where he goes. That is his problem. He is well old enough to find his own place. Any construction company would hire him no matter what his record is and he could get work. My son works in construction and he doesnt even have a HS diploma. [/QUOTE]
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