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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 524266" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. Glad you found us (sorry you had to).</p><p></p><p>I also think she needs an evaluation and you need to stop second guessing your parenting. However, you did not tell us many details about either your parenting or boyfriend's parenting. I am guessing that you let her hit you and he decided that it was a good idea to hit her. If so, both are wrong and he had no business laying a hand on her as he is not related to her in any way. But you can't just quietly let her hit you either, although a lot of our difficult child's tend to hit us.</p><p></p><p>This is what in my opinion would help you best: I would find a neuropsychologist to evaluate her and put her in therapy as well.</p><p></p><p>I want to extend some empathy on not having a family. I don't really either. There is my hub and my kids, but as far as others, there is only my 88 year old father who has never ever ever been a nurturing caring or involved parent (he can't even remember my grandson's name and has never seen him...the child is now four). My brother lives in NJ. We aren't close. I am close to my sister now, but we spent many years estranged so our kids don't know one another and have no connection...we don't spent holidays together. I often feel like you do...there is no extended family. My husband of sixteen years (he is my second husband and finally a good one) has no family either. His parents are dead. He has one sister who he is not that close to. My oldest son lives in Missouri (with grandson). You know the rest. I don't think it bothers our kids as much as it bothers us, as long as they have us, and your daughter has you.</p><p></p><p>I think also that you would do well in therapy to work on your stuff. You were vague about it, but whatever it is, you will be a much better parent and far more sure of yourself (without allowing anyone else to tell you you're wrong) if you feel better about yourself. </p><p></p><p>One last question: Biology is important in the development of our children, even if our kids never see their biological relatives. After all, each child is made up of 50% mom's genes and 50% bio. father's genes, even if he is little more than a sperm donor. Are there any psychiatric problems on either side of your daughter's genetic family tree? Any bipolar? Depression? Schizophrenia? Substance abuse? Other?</p><p></p><p>Welcome again! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 524266, member: 1550"] Hi there. Glad you found us (sorry you had to). I also think she needs an evaluation and you need to stop second guessing your parenting. However, you did not tell us many details about either your parenting or boyfriend's parenting. I am guessing that you let her hit you and he decided that it was a good idea to hit her. If so, both are wrong and he had no business laying a hand on her as he is not related to her in any way. But you can't just quietly let her hit you either, although a lot of our difficult child's tend to hit us. This is what in my opinion would help you best: I would find a neuropsychologist to evaluate her and put her in therapy as well. I want to extend some empathy on not having a family. I don't really either. There is my hub and my kids, but as far as others, there is only my 88 year old father who has never ever ever been a nurturing caring or involved parent (he can't even remember my grandson's name and has never seen him...the child is now four). My brother lives in NJ. We aren't close. I am close to my sister now, but we spent many years estranged so our kids don't know one another and have no connection...we don't spent holidays together. I often feel like you do...there is no extended family. My husband of sixteen years (he is my second husband and finally a good one) has no family either. His parents are dead. He has one sister who he is not that close to. My oldest son lives in Missouri (with grandson). You know the rest. I don't think it bothers our kids as much as it bothers us, as long as they have us, and your daughter has you. I think also that you would do well in therapy to work on your stuff. You were vague about it, but whatever it is, you will be a much better parent and far more sure of yourself (without allowing anyone else to tell you you're wrong) if you feel better about yourself. One last question: Biology is important in the development of our children, even if our kids never see their biological relatives. After all, each child is made up of 50% mom's genes and 50% bio. father's genes, even if he is little more than a sperm donor. Are there any psychiatric problems on either side of your daughter's genetic family tree? Any bipolar? Depression? Schizophrenia? Substance abuse? Other? Welcome again! :) [/QUOTE]
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