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bluebluesky
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Hi. I'm glad I found this board. To say I am confused would be an understatement. I have a nine-year old daughter and I am having issues. I don't know where to turn to anymore, because everyone around me says it is all okay.
For the longest time I have had the hardest time creating a support network for me and my daughter. I am a single mom and feel very alienated and isolated and the moment. I can't put my finger on what is wrong. All I know is:
1. I have been trying to create consistent friendships for my daughter forever, and it has been very hard.
2. I take my daughter out and almost always either get unfriendly stares or very bored looks toward my daughter. No idea why.
3. If I thought I could create a nice community type feel here where I live, I was seriously wrong. Most people in my building show complete disinterest or are moodly and are not always friendly.
4. Even the counselor at camp where I put my daughter looked at me very coldly when I picked my daughter up and proceeded to give my daughter a very cold and unfriendly stare as my daughter asked another girl a question, then the counselor hugged the other girl and took her to the other room as we left. I thought it was the girl's mother, and was unaware it was one of my daughter's counselors, since she was so unfriendly toward me and my daughter and so friendly toward the other girl. It doesn't help that this is an artistic camp (acting, dancing, singing), so it makes me feel she doesn't acknowledge my daughter or her talents.
The reason I am writing on this board is because my daughter exhibits very difficutl behavior at home and am now seriously considering testing her for odd, although if she has it, I believe it is very mild. I spoke to her guidance counselor at school, as well as a counselor I am talking to about the way people react to her and they said everything seemed to be fine. Lately, though I wonder if there is something more here, and even though on the playdates she has been in the past, the parents said the kids played nicely, something just doesn't add up here.
At the very least, I have no clue why people react to her the way they do. Adults don't seem to respond well to her, though she is very well-mannered when we are outside. Okay, I get that people obviously don't think that she is pretty, since I never receive a compliment on how cute she is, but still, she is a child and I have seen kids receive compliments no matter what. I am confused. I am scared that she somehow does not form connections to the adults around her, i.e., our neighbors, the camp counselors, etc. and so on. What could the problem be?
For the longest time I have had the hardest time creating a support network for me and my daughter. I am a single mom and feel very alienated and isolated and the moment. I can't put my finger on what is wrong. All I know is:
1. I have been trying to create consistent friendships for my daughter forever, and it has been very hard.
2. I take my daughter out and almost always either get unfriendly stares or very bored looks toward my daughter. No idea why.
3. If I thought I could create a nice community type feel here where I live, I was seriously wrong. Most people in my building show complete disinterest or are moodly and are not always friendly.
4. Even the counselor at camp where I put my daughter looked at me very coldly when I picked my daughter up and proceeded to give my daughter a very cold and unfriendly stare as my daughter asked another girl a question, then the counselor hugged the other girl and took her to the other room as we left. I thought it was the girl's mother, and was unaware it was one of my daughter's counselors, since she was so unfriendly toward me and my daughter and so friendly toward the other girl. It doesn't help that this is an artistic camp (acting, dancing, singing), so it makes me feel she doesn't acknowledge my daughter or her talents.
The reason I am writing on this board is because my daughter exhibits very difficutl behavior at home and am now seriously considering testing her for odd, although if she has it, I believe it is very mild. I spoke to her guidance counselor at school, as well as a counselor I am talking to about the way people react to her and they said everything seemed to be fine. Lately, though I wonder if there is something more here, and even though on the playdates she has been in the past, the parents said the kids played nicely, something just doesn't add up here.
At the very least, I have no clue why people react to her the way they do. Adults don't seem to respond well to her, though she is very well-mannered when we are outside. Okay, I get that people obviously don't think that she is pretty, since I never receive a compliment on how cute she is, but still, she is a child and I have seen kids receive compliments no matter what. I am confused. I am scared that she somehow does not form connections to the adults around her, i.e., our neighbors, the camp counselors, etc. and so on. What could the problem be?