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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 583191" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Thanks for your replies!</p><p></p><p>Yes, no more enabling! When he told us about the baby coming, and that he wasn't doing drugs any more and wanted to take care of the new family, we had so hoped it was true and wanted to help him get a job and start providing for them. Of course we were all duped again! We have had a difficult time comprehending how a young man who supposedly loves his girlfriend could continue to be so selfish! It is a biological instinct to take care of your offspring. I had hoped this would be a wake-up call. </p><p></p><p>I so wish the girlfriend would give the baby up for adoption, but its not going to happen. They both seem to be living in la-la land. He goes over to her (parents) house and they hang out and watch TV and such or she goes to difficult child's (mom's) house to hang out and no one seems to be concerned that they are acting like children instead of adults with jobs and taking responsibility for their actions. I wonder if they just assume someone else is going to provide for them? </p><p></p><p>difficult child's mom can't bring herself to throw him out permanently. She doesn't seem to be able to enforce rules. She actually pays him to clean his own room!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 583191, member: 16024"] Thanks for your replies! Yes, no more enabling! When he told us about the baby coming, and that he wasn't doing drugs any more and wanted to take care of the new family, we had so hoped it was true and wanted to help him get a job and start providing for them. Of course we were all duped again! We have had a difficult time comprehending how a young man who supposedly loves his girlfriend could continue to be so selfish! It is a biological instinct to take care of your offspring. I had hoped this would be a wake-up call. I so wish the girlfriend would give the baby up for adoption, but its not going to happen. They both seem to be living in la-la land. He goes over to her (parents) house and they hang out and watch TV and such or she goes to difficult child's (mom's) house to hang out and no one seems to be concerned that they are acting like children instead of adults with jobs and taking responsibility for their actions. I wonder if they just assume someone else is going to provide for them? difficult child's mom can't bring herself to throw him out permanently. She doesn't seem to be able to enforce rules. She actually pays him to clean his own room! [/QUOTE]
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