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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 594069" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Good post, Jules. There are also some kids who have temperments t hat make it harder for a mother to bond with the child, such as the child not liking to be held or seemingly rejecting Mom, as in autism or other neurological differences. There are parents as well who are not prone to bonding with their children and that can cause attachment problems. Any child who lies in a crib and isn't nurtured or loved or cuddled in those early years will learn not to trust anyone to take care of it's needs. Then if a loving caregiver suddenly appears in his/her life, this child has already wired himself/herself not to trust anyone. It can happen at a very young age and is very hard to treat and the child is very difficult to raise because he lacks trust. Wost case scenario is that the child cares nothing for anyone else...he has learned not to and it is hard to change that. Often, these are extremely angry kids and some have no consciences as well. There is a big penalty for the child to pay if he is not loved by a consistent caregiver in his early months and/or years.</p><p></p><p>This used to be called "failure to thrive."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 594069, member: 1550"] Good post, Jules. There are also some kids who have temperments t hat make it harder for a mother to bond with the child, such as the child not liking to be held or seemingly rejecting Mom, as in autism or other neurological differences. There are parents as well who are not prone to bonding with their children and that can cause attachment problems. Any child who lies in a crib and isn't nurtured or loved or cuddled in those early years will learn not to trust anyone to take care of it's needs. Then if a loving caregiver suddenly appears in his/her life, this child has already wired himself/herself not to trust anyone. It can happen at a very young age and is very hard to treat and the child is very difficult to raise because he lacks trust. Wost case scenario is that the child cares nothing for anyone else...he has learned not to and it is hard to change that. Often, these are extremely angry kids and some have no consciences as well. There is a big penalty for the child to pay if he is not loved by a consistent caregiver in his early months and/or years. This used to be called "failure to thrive." [/QUOTE]
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