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<blockquote data-quote="homesteadma" data-source="post: 596514" data-attributes="member: 16290"><p>The best I could do around here is a group called "Personal Growth & Learning" who have a psychiatrist, psychologists, and a host of other people with lots of letters after their names. Had 1 hr appointment with psychiatrist who asked me many, many, questions about daughter's history, behavior, development at different ages, etc. While this was going on, daughter was bouncing up and down like a pogo stick, refused to stop trying to get into the Dr's bookcase stacked with stuff, even though I tried distracting her repeatedly with crayons, books, playdough, etc., in other words, being her normal self. The Dr. said she wanted her to be seen by a woman there who works with children who have been through trauma, foster placements, and those kind of situations. The first appointment. with her is in mid June. I asked the psychiatrist if she could tell me anything, as to her opinion of what's going on. She said that I was redirecting her well, that I was doing a good job of that. She wanted to wait and see what the other counselor she's going to see says after she's had a chance to see her some. She recommended a book to me, "Have a New Kid by Friday" which I immediately downloaded and husband and I read it, and are implimenting a lot of the strategies from it. Basically it's B (what the child wants) doesn't happen, until A (what you want) has been achieved. I have gained a bit more cooperation from her by using this. But the screaming fits, omg, are awful. She's now already trying to "play" me, by ignoring me initially, then when she sees I'm not going to give, she finally submits with a smile and says, "See mommy, I obeyed, so I can have ...?" and when I tell her NO, she can't have .... because she didn't do .... WHEN I said for her to, she has a screaming melt down again. I'm not sure that makes sense, if you haven't read the book. Here's an example, I tell her I'm going to the store (making sure I have her attention) to go get her shoes and put them on, if she wants to go with me. I tell her 1 time only, then walk away. She ignores me. Just a few minutes later I say, I'm leaving for the store. She comes running and screaming that she wants to go. I tell her no, she can't come, she doesn't have shoes on, and I leave. She of course starts screaming and running through the house trying to find her shoes, yelling wait, I'm getting my shoes, and I just continue out the door and leave, without reacting to her pitiful plea. Of course, husband is there with her, but the point is, she didn't get to do B, (go with me to the store) because A, (getting shoes on) wasn't achieved. Next time I told her to get those shoes on, she did it. But poor husband had his ears stopped up for 30 minutes after I left because of her screaming and wailing. lol. Any thoughts on this???</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="homesteadma, post: 596514, member: 16290"] The best I could do around here is a group called "Personal Growth & Learning" who have a psychiatrist, psychologists, and a host of other people with lots of letters after their names. Had 1 hr appointment with psychiatrist who asked me many, many, questions about daughter's history, behavior, development at different ages, etc. While this was going on, daughter was bouncing up and down like a pogo stick, refused to stop trying to get into the Dr's bookcase stacked with stuff, even though I tried distracting her repeatedly with crayons, books, playdough, etc., in other words, being her normal self. The Dr. said she wanted her to be seen by a woman there who works with children who have been through trauma, foster placements, and those kind of situations. The first appointment. with her is in mid June. I asked the psychiatrist if she could tell me anything, as to her opinion of what's going on. She said that I was redirecting her well, that I was doing a good job of that. She wanted to wait and see what the other counselor she's going to see says after she's had a chance to see her some. She recommended a book to me, "Have a New Kid by Friday" which I immediately downloaded and husband and I read it, and are implimenting a lot of the strategies from it. Basically it's B (what the child wants) doesn't happen, until A (what you want) has been achieved. I have gained a bit more cooperation from her by using this. But the screaming fits, omg, are awful. She's now already trying to "play" me, by ignoring me initially, then when she sees I'm not going to give, she finally submits with a smile and says, "See mommy, I obeyed, so I can have ...?" and when I tell her NO, she can't have .... because she didn't do .... WHEN I said for her to, she has a screaming melt down again. I'm not sure that makes sense, if you haven't read the book. Here's an example, I tell her I'm going to the store (making sure I have her attention) to go get her shoes and put them on, if she wants to go with me. I tell her 1 time only, then walk away. She ignores me. Just a few minutes later I say, I'm leaving for the store. She comes running and screaming that she wants to go. I tell her no, she can't come, she doesn't have shoes on, and I leave. She of course starts screaming and running through the house trying to find her shoes, yelling wait, I'm getting my shoes, and I just continue out the door and leave, without reacting to her pitiful plea. Of course, husband is there with her, but the point is, she didn't get to do B, (go with me to the store) because A, (getting shoes on) wasn't achieved. Next time I told her to get those shoes on, she did it. But poor husband had his ears stopped up for 30 minutes after I left because of her screaming and wailing. lol. Any thoughts on this??? [/QUOTE]
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