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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 117245" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hi there and welcome, </p><p></p><p>I don't know Canadian systems or protocol, but here in the US if you can get him placed in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - MOST of them have what is called a TDC program - max 60 days placement. It's for HIGH risk behaviored kids. They are locked in - like a hospital and have intensive treatment (or so I'm told). haha. </p><p></p><p>As far as the hockey - the fact that he had a fight - shows that he has low impulse control and aggression. Could you work it with a coach that since he IS so good - they could be made aware of his behaviors - so they could help AND let him play? What does he like? What is it that he would like to do? The fact that he's 15 beating up on a 6 year old shows me he's a bully. So maybe you can do some research about bullies. If he's beating up on people why haven't the police been involved to get him in the court system for court ordered treatment? </p><p></p><p>It sounds absurd I know - but I think about the other kids in your house who HAVE a chance to be different - but are under the gun with big brother. I really feel sorry for his situation of being in and out of Moms. One thing these kids need is stability. Being bounced back and forth doesn't help. (Not your fault) just making an observation. </p><p></p><p>I would give him choices. Go to see a psychiatric, OR we're putting you in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). And HAVE the placement in line then take him - </p><p></p><p>It's hard to tell with these kids what is wrong - but we MADE our son go to the psychiatric - even if he just sat in the docs office and did NOTHING - not said ONE word. HE WENT and got in the habit of going - if I had to take my time to get him there - we were going to go. Eventually he did start talking to the psychiatric. And he's about as hard core as they come for keeping his mouth shut in presence of dr's. After three years - and I'm not saying every visit was welcome - he did better. He was given a choice- his choice Dr. or Residential Treatment Center (RTC). If he said Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - we made arrangements and dropped him off. He did better in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) than he did at home because of the schedules. He still calls one of his therapists from there - I'm glad they made a connection. </p><p></p><p>Hugs - come back and vent often - it helps. </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 117245, member: 4964"] Hi there and welcome, I don't know Canadian systems or protocol, but here in the US if you can get him placed in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - MOST of them have what is called a TDC program - max 60 days placement. It's for HIGH risk behaviored kids. They are locked in - like a hospital and have intensive treatment (or so I'm told). haha. As far as the hockey - the fact that he had a fight - shows that he has low impulse control and aggression. Could you work it with a coach that since he IS so good - they could be made aware of his behaviors - so they could help AND let him play? What does he like? What is it that he would like to do? The fact that he's 15 beating up on a 6 year old shows me he's a bully. So maybe you can do some research about bullies. If he's beating up on people why haven't the police been involved to get him in the court system for court ordered treatment? It sounds absurd I know - but I think about the other kids in your house who HAVE a chance to be different - but are under the gun with big brother. I really feel sorry for his situation of being in and out of Moms. One thing these kids need is stability. Being bounced back and forth doesn't help. (Not your fault) just making an observation. I would give him choices. Go to see a psychiatric, OR we're putting you in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). And HAVE the placement in line then take him - It's hard to tell with these kids what is wrong - but we MADE our son go to the psychiatric - even if he just sat in the docs office and did NOTHING - not said ONE word. HE WENT and got in the habit of going - if I had to take my time to get him there - we were going to go. Eventually he did start talking to the psychiatric. And he's about as hard core as they come for keeping his mouth shut in presence of dr's. After three years - and I'm not saying every visit was welcome - he did better. He was given a choice- his choice Dr. or Residential Treatment Center (RTC). If he said Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - we made arrangements and dropped him off. He did better in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) than he did at home because of the schedules. He still calls one of his therapists from there - I'm glad they made a connection. Hugs - come back and vent often - it helps. Star [/QUOTE]
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