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<blockquote data-quote="KitKat" data-source="post: 117258" data-attributes="member: 4518"><p>Well</p><p></p><p>I rejoined this group yesterday and of the responses I've had, we're on the right track. We're calling Youth Protection again today with the school and case worker involved, parents as well; to give a cumulative, last-ditch report on what this child has been up to. Bullying smaller kids, bullying larger kids, torturing (killing) wild animals (that one freaked me out), smoking pot, verbal abuse, assaulting teachers, threatening suicide and the like. Youth Protection in Quebec is the only way he is going to get into the "Residential Treatment Center (RTC)" and get onto the program you are describing. We've called them more than several times but they say since he isn't in full-blown crisis (ie. murdering somebody, trying to hang himself, burning the house down or similar) they're not going to touch the case. He's currently in an emerg shelter for three days while we get this going (hopefully it'll get going!) and is having a ball - he's sequestered at night but free to roam the facility during the daytime. He even called yesterday asking if we could special-deliver his HAIR GEL (refused). Quite amazing how he spurns any kind of structure and negates any kind of serious intervention, just as if it were a normal course of events or was not happening. In my mind, he does feel emotion but is oh so good at hiding it - or something in his makeup is not enabling him to express his emotions except in this violent, aggressive way. He was referred for neuro-psychiatry but both the kids' hospitals in Montreal (french and english) refused him!</p><p></p><p>Our objective with YP is to obtain:</p><p></p><p>1. Psychiatric reassessment, looking for conditions other than ODD/CD/ADHD - reassessment of current medications</p><p>2. Behaviour therapy - in an external environment - Residential Treatment Center (RTC)</p><p>3. Alternative schooling - the resources do exist here in Quebec but are not published for fear of everyone clamoring for additional assistance</p><p>4. Behaviour modification so that he can return to live with his Dad, brother, sister and me. Bio mom is not an option and we will take steps to make that clear. We want him HERE but need to be assured that family members will be safe. I don't care about money missing from my wallet; I DO CARE about the safety of all family members. He's been notified that he cannot live here until there are some changes and he gets some internal work done, which he always promises to do but then reverts to his original behaviour.</p><p></p><p>My stepson has been warned over the past two months that any assault either on us (family) or in public to another individual will result in us calling 911. Trouble is, when he did it at school they did not call 911! Neither did they do so when he was caught with a group torturing and then killing squirrels and seagulls last fall. Not sure whose side they're on. Anyway, your words mean alot (thank you so much) and I'm determined to move forward. My husband marvels that I'm doing this for my stepson; I in turn marvel that he is such a fantastic dad and so good to all of us. We make a good team and are therefore very lucky in that regard. There is actually alot to be thankful for (I think)!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KitKat, post: 117258, member: 4518"] Well I rejoined this group yesterday and of the responses I've had, we're on the right track. We're calling Youth Protection again today with the school and case worker involved, parents as well; to give a cumulative, last-ditch report on what this child has been up to. Bullying smaller kids, bullying larger kids, torturing (killing) wild animals (that one freaked me out), smoking pot, verbal abuse, assaulting teachers, threatening suicide and the like. Youth Protection in Quebec is the only way he is going to get into the "Residential Treatment Center (RTC)" and get onto the program you are describing. We've called them more than several times but they say since he isn't in full-blown crisis (ie. murdering somebody, trying to hang himself, burning the house down or similar) they're not going to touch the case. He's currently in an emerg shelter for three days while we get this going (hopefully it'll get going!) and is having a ball - he's sequestered at night but free to roam the facility during the daytime. He even called yesterday asking if we could special-deliver his HAIR GEL (refused). Quite amazing how he spurns any kind of structure and negates any kind of serious intervention, just as if it were a normal course of events or was not happening. In my mind, he does feel emotion but is oh so good at hiding it - or something in his makeup is not enabling him to express his emotions except in this violent, aggressive way. He was referred for neuro-psychiatry but both the kids' hospitals in Montreal (french and english) refused him! Our objective with YP is to obtain: 1. Psychiatric reassessment, looking for conditions other than ODD/CD/ADHD - reassessment of current medications 2. Behaviour therapy - in an external environment - Residential Treatment Center (RTC) 3. Alternative schooling - the resources do exist here in Quebec but are not published for fear of everyone clamoring for additional assistance 4. Behaviour modification so that he can return to live with his Dad, brother, sister and me. Bio mom is not an option and we will take steps to make that clear. We want him HERE but need to be assured that family members will be safe. I don't care about money missing from my wallet; I DO CARE about the safety of all family members. He's been notified that he cannot live here until there are some changes and he gets some internal work done, which he always promises to do but then reverts to his original behaviour. My stepson has been warned over the past two months that any assault either on us (family) or in public to another individual will result in us calling 911. Trouble is, when he did it at school they did not call 911! Neither did they do so when he was caught with a group torturing and then killing squirrels and seagulls last fall. Not sure whose side they're on. Anyway, your words mean alot (thank you so much) and I'm determined to move forward. My husband marvels that I'm doing this for my stepson; I in turn marvel that he is such a fantastic dad and so good to all of us. We make a good team and are therefore very lucky in that regard. There is actually alot to be thankful for (I think)! [/QUOTE]
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