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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 179958" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>I wanted to extend my welcome to you! </p><p> </p><p>This forum has been, heads and shoulders, the best resource as far as learning how to cope,deal, and survive, my little darlings. </p><p> </p><p>First off, your daughter's issues aren't about "home". Both of my difficult children were fine at school. Home was, and continues to be, the main place they tend to let loose. Though, at about nine, Daughter had her first meltdown at school. Thing is, that meltdown tainted her forever in the eyes of her peers. Not an easy thing to live down when you have pretty much the same classmates for the rest of your schooling. </p><p> </p><p>I chuckled (not funny, I know) when I read your comment about "traditional" techniques of parenting. If those worked for any of us, we wouldn't be here. We probably would be more like those who believe that our difficult children just a spanking to set them straight. Yeah, I so wish!</p><p> </p><p>Do you have a video camera? Or a digitial camera that can take video? How about taking some footage for your husband to help make him into a believer? My husband is gone most of the time working, and about 3 years ago Daughter had a full-on grade-A meltdown when I was gone shopping. He called me after he locked himself in the garage (such a guy) huffing and puffing out of breath after getting into a physical confrontation with her and she wouldn't stop attacking him. It started over something simple until things out completely out of control. </p><p> </p><p>Keep the footage for any psychiatrists, Peds, or therapist you may encounter along with road with difficult child. Comes in very handy. A picture paints a thousand words.</p><p> </p><p>You need help finding ways to take back your home and not responding to the "not fair" stuff. </p><p> </p><p>The sensitivity to clothing is a big red flag that there are deeper things other than ODD going on. Some disagree, but it is my belief that ODD is a manifestation of other disorders. It is a term for the BEHAVIOR that is a result of other neurologically based disorders. I would encourage you to investigate Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) further. </p><p> </p><p>As far as a neuropsychological evaluation, my son's neurologist was the best resource. I would advise you to seek out a pediatric neurologist affiliated with a teaching university hospital, AKA medical school. Find the one nearest you and ask for the pediatric neurology department. You might even want to take her to a neurologist as a way to rule out any visible brain abnormalities.</p><p> </p><p>As far as family, friends, and others, who wish to share their parenting wisdom, you have a few options:</p><p> </p><p>Ignore.</p><p> </p><p>Come up with a few snappy, sarcastic, comebacks. (My personal favorite)</p><p> </p><p>Tell them to mind their own darn business. </p><p> </p><p>This is a good day! You found us!<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/peaceful.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":peaceful:" title="peaceful :peaceful:" data-shortname=":peaceful:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 179958, member: 831"] I wanted to extend my welcome to you! This forum has been, heads and shoulders, the best resource as far as learning how to cope,deal, and survive, my little darlings. First off, your daughter's issues aren't about "home". Both of my difficult children were fine at school. Home was, and continues to be, the main place they tend to let loose. Though, at about nine, Daughter had her first meltdown at school. Thing is, that meltdown tainted her forever in the eyes of her peers. Not an easy thing to live down when you have pretty much the same classmates for the rest of your schooling. I chuckled (not funny, I know) when I read your comment about "traditional" techniques of parenting. If those worked for any of us, we wouldn't be here. We probably would be more like those who believe that our difficult children just a spanking to set them straight. Yeah, I so wish! Do you have a video camera? Or a digitial camera that can take video? How about taking some footage for your husband to help make him into a believer? My husband is gone most of the time working, and about 3 years ago Daughter had a full-on grade-A meltdown when I was gone shopping. He called me after he locked himself in the garage (such a guy) huffing and puffing out of breath after getting into a physical confrontation with her and she wouldn't stop attacking him. It started over something simple until things out completely out of control. Keep the footage for any psychiatrists, Peds, or therapist you may encounter along with road with difficult child. Comes in very handy. A picture paints a thousand words. You need help finding ways to take back your home and not responding to the "not fair" stuff. The sensitivity to clothing is a big red flag that there are deeper things other than ODD going on. Some disagree, but it is my belief that ODD is a manifestation of other disorders. It is a term for the BEHAVIOR that is a result of other neurologically based disorders. I would encourage you to investigate Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) further. As far as a neuropsychological evaluation, my son's neurologist was the best resource. I would advise you to seek out a pediatric neurologist affiliated with a teaching university hospital, AKA medical school. Find the one nearest you and ask for the pediatric neurology department. You might even want to take her to a neurologist as a way to rule out any visible brain abnormalities. As far as family, friends, and others, who wish to share their parenting wisdom, you have a few options: Ignore. Come up with a few snappy, sarcastic, comebacks. (My personal favorite) Tell them to mind their own darn business. This is a good day! You found us!:peaceful: [/QUOTE]
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