Hi all, I stumbled upon this site and am so glad to be here! Just wanted to introduce myself and tell you a little about my situation so you kind of know me for when I ask for help! I am a mother of one and a custodial stepmother of two more children. I have a wonderful husband. My oldest stepchild was diagnosed with adhd years ago. Has had learning problems since preschool. When she was younger her behavior was atrocious. Now she is a sweet girl but very immature for her age (13). She is also a year behind in school because she was held back at a young age. She has an IEP and homework is a struggle everyday as it will take her about 4 hours a night to do a few things. Everything she does is so slow. She has a hard time staying focused on things, so that is why it takes her so long. We tried medication and it did not work. Made her sad and like a zombie. School said she would concentrate for about 15 min at a time more when on medication. We made the decision to take her off medications and she has blossomed into a happy girl. My son is 11. Never been diagnosed with anything, but he is so difficult at times! His teachers have hinted at ADHD, but he has never been diagnosed. And after seeing what medications did to my sd I am not sure I even want him to be diagnosed. My son is very smart, but homework is a daily argument. He cries about studying for tests and whines so much it takes us hours instead of a normal amount. He throws temper tantrums when he gets something wrong and I make him fix it. But somehow we have managed to make it through and his grades are all A's and B's in school. When it comes to chores he rushes and does it horribly. When I make him fix it with me it is a fight. He argues about everything! He plays rough with my younger stepson even if I tell him 10 times that day to keep hands to himself. I can say something to him and he will not do it and claim he did not hear me...though when I am having a private conversation he can repeat it to me later. I am a stay at home mom for the most part. I used to be a full-time teacher. Now, I substitute teach on occasion and babysit during the summers. I could go on an on but I think I will end here. It did make me feel better to get it out! Thanks for listening!