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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 443042" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Hello and welcome. You are under a lot of pressure with your son's behaviour, and like everyone here, I do understand just how stressful and difficult it is at times.</p><p>What is your own sense of what is going on with your boy? Is he going to be assessed by a child psychiatrist? It sounds a little as though you think your son is just very badly behaved - or am I misreading you? It seems, though, that the way human beings are wired, if a child this young is aggressive and violent/hot tempered for no or little reason, it points to a neurological disorder of some sort. I am absolutely no expert but, given that your home life sounds stable and loving, it is simply what common sense indicates. </p><p>Does your son have another side to him or is it all "negative"? My own son - and what I have often seemed to read here on this forum - seems to have two distinct sides or characters, that are like night and day. One is sweet, loving, affectionate and empathetic. The other is semi-monstrous, shouting insults when crossed or thwarted, shrieking when he doesn't get his way, crashing toys down on the floor and breaking them when angry, etc, etc. He also lies when confronted with something "naughty" he has done and, sadly, I do not think this is anything to do with his character or circumstances; I actually now think it is part of something "wrong", something that is not working as it should in his brain. Punishing him or getting angry with him for doing it seems to make absolutely no difference, which is of course rather depressing from one point of view. </p><p>What I am trying to say is that while your reactions to your son are totally understandable and normal, I begin to suspect myself that these behaviour problems in young children are manifestations of illness in some sense, just like a physical illness. And we wouldn't get angry with our children if they had polio and couldn't walk. So I think you need some kind of diagnosis and understanding to begin coping and dealing with him and hopefully getting some treatment and some improvements.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 443042, member: 11227"] Hello and welcome. You are under a lot of pressure with your son's behaviour, and like everyone here, I do understand just how stressful and difficult it is at times. What is your own sense of what is going on with your boy? Is he going to be assessed by a child psychiatrist? It sounds a little as though you think your son is just very badly behaved - or am I misreading you? It seems, though, that the way human beings are wired, if a child this young is aggressive and violent/hot tempered for no or little reason, it points to a neurological disorder of some sort. I am absolutely no expert but, given that your home life sounds stable and loving, it is simply what common sense indicates. Does your son have another side to him or is it all "negative"? My own son - and what I have often seemed to read here on this forum - seems to have two distinct sides or characters, that are like night and day. One is sweet, loving, affectionate and empathetic. The other is semi-monstrous, shouting insults when crossed or thwarted, shrieking when he doesn't get his way, crashing toys down on the floor and breaking them when angry, etc, etc. He also lies when confronted with something "naughty" he has done and, sadly, I do not think this is anything to do with his character or circumstances; I actually now think it is part of something "wrong", something that is not working as it should in his brain. Punishing him or getting angry with him for doing it seems to make absolutely no difference, which is of course rather depressing from one point of view. What I am trying to say is that while your reactions to your son are totally understandable and normal, I begin to suspect myself that these behaviour problems in young children are manifestations of illness in some sense, just like a physical illness. And we wouldn't get angry with our children if they had polio and couldn't walk. So I think you need some kind of diagnosis and understanding to begin coping and dealing with him and hopefully getting some treatment and some improvements. [/QUOTE]
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