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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 724591" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Enmesh:</p><p></p><p>I had a great therapist that was with me for about 9 months who I started seeing after my son was sent to Florida to sober living and did well until he overdosed on girlfriend's mothers morphine. Her mother was terminally ill and has since passed. I just was having a major meltdown 24/7. I felt I was literally shaking <em>inside</em>. I was thankful I had her because she really helped me through that time. Seeing his overdose in my mind on a loop and trying to work and live my daily life. </p><p></p><p>She left the practice late last year and I started seeing someone else less often. At the beginning I was mortified but am doing okay with her now. She is also a specialist in addiction so that is helpful. Then SHE left practice but thankfully I was able to follow her. I think it's more about being able to have someone hear you out and offer their reflections into your thoughts coming from her expertise in addiction. The continuity with the first one was critical for me at that time so I'm glad I had that.</p><p></p><p>Right now I am dealing with more of a PTSD from everything we've been through. Our son is safe now and so I am actually feeling much better but I still have high anxiety a LOT. I fear for his future and if he will get everything out of the program that he is in now that he should be getting. I know worrying doesn't help so I try to cope and take it one day at a time and focus on where he is right NOW.</p><p></p><p>Obviously not mine to control either but well we know that story......</p><p></p><p>I think the fact that you are aware of what is going on around you and you have come to this site are both good things. Being INFORMED and EDUCATED is the best thing we can do for ourselves as parents. Your son is already an adult so you certainly can pull out the big guns. You no longer HAVE TO support him or have him in your home. You should not put up with him disrespecting you or your home and certainly you need to protect your younger son from being in an unsafe or hostile environment if it comes to that.</p><p></p><p>Of course, we all hope your husband is right but none of us can predict the future. I think you're doing everything you need to do for now but don't be afraid to be firm or they have a tendency to "walk all over" us.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 724591, member: 15032"] Enmesh: I had a great therapist that was with me for about 9 months who I started seeing after my son was sent to Florida to sober living and did well until he overdosed on girlfriend's mothers morphine. Her mother was terminally ill and has since passed. I just was having a major meltdown 24/7. I felt I was literally shaking [I]inside[/I]. I was thankful I had her because she really helped me through that time. Seeing his overdose in my mind on a loop and trying to work and live my daily life. She left the practice late last year and I started seeing someone else less often. At the beginning I was mortified but am doing okay with her now. She is also a specialist in addiction so that is helpful. Then SHE left practice but thankfully I was able to follow her. I think it's more about being able to have someone hear you out and offer their reflections into your thoughts coming from her expertise in addiction. The continuity with the first one was critical for me at that time so I'm glad I had that. Right now I am dealing with more of a PTSD from everything we've been through. Our son is safe now and so I am actually feeling much better but I still have high anxiety a LOT. I fear for his future and if he will get everything out of the program that he is in now that he should be getting. I know worrying doesn't help so I try to cope and take it one day at a time and focus on where he is right NOW. Obviously not mine to control either but well we know that story...... I think the fact that you are aware of what is going on around you and you have come to this site are both good things. Being INFORMED and EDUCATED is the best thing we can do for ourselves as parents. Your son is already an adult so you certainly can pull out the big guns. You no longer HAVE TO support him or have him in your home. You should not put up with him disrespecting you or your home and certainly you need to protect your younger son from being in an unsafe or hostile environment if it comes to that. Of course, we all hope your husband is right but none of us can predict the future. I think you're doing everything you need to do for now but don't be afraid to be firm or they have a tendency to "walk all over" us. :staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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