Hi everyone I've never been so relieved to find an on-line forum as when I found this one. I have 1 child - 16 yr old son - Difficult Child is an understatement. Oppositional Defiance Disorder, plus just enough Narcissism to really make it fun. Here we go - I'll try to make it short, while not leaving anything out..... Difficult Child smoking pot on a daily basis (maybe 5-6 days a week), started heavy use about 8 months ago. Was skipping school, ignoring curfew completely, telling me rules that he doesn't like don't apply to him, lashing out verbally when I refuse to give him money, manipulation to the tenth degree. Got suspended for a day from school for having paraphanalia on him - I put him in 3 week outpatient behavioral therapy for drugs and ODD. He made a big joke out of it and caused trouble with the other teens in the program. Completed the program - no medications were prescribed (he won't take them anyway) - and now curfew is being obeyed, and outbursts are much better - then starts stealing/drinking all the alcohol in the house and leaving the evidence just right out in the open - even after grounding and phone removal, and laptop removal and bedroom door removal for having sex in the house with his (older) girlfriend - still smoking pot and stealing cigarettes, alcohol, and I believe he stole my Xanax prescription and likely sold it (I have anxiety disorder and need the Xanax when I travel for work). So...Newest development - while looking for a lighter in his room, I found 2 hollowed out pens with the ends melted. Of course my fear was Meth use - so I confronted him last night and all Hell broke loose. He was so offended and hurt that I would suggest such a thing he was crying in hysterics (drama is his middle name...or should be) and he refused to go in for a drug test to his caseworker from outpatient. I felt terrible for accusing him of such a thing. He idolizes my brother who is a recovering Heroin addict (8 years clean YAY!) and said he would never try any hard drugs because he knows his uncles story. He has admitted to trying Acid numerous times, plus Molly, and then this drinking thing that came out of nowhere - not stealing just beer, but polishing off almost full bottles of Tequila and Vodka and then filling them up with water!!! We don't usually have hard liquor in the house, but there was stuff leftover from Holiday parties, etc. I guess there's no way to make this a short story. Back in October he was complaining of anxiety and panic attacks so the doctor prescribed Lexapro, which he stopped taking after a week, and a 30 day Xanax script that I could hold onto for him in case of a panic attack - yeah he sold that whole bottle as soon as he could get his hands on it. Now I have all medications, cash, and his phone kept in a safe under my bed at all times. Again - something that thoroughly OFFENDS him. Please. I need some help. Maybe I'm making mountains out of molehills and this is all normal teenage crap. Anyone? Thanks in advance. I raised him 100% alone and I can't help feeling like I royally screwed this up somehow. I got married for the first time 2 years ago and while that is nice and I love my husband - it's hard to go through this with someone who is not as invested in him as I am.