Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
New member here
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 666857" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi P126Mum.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board. I am sorry you are suffering. But it brought you here. That is a good thing.</p><p></p><p>We always have a choice. Most of the time there is not one perfect choice. Sometime we have to pick the best choice of bad ones...all of them seem flawed in some way. The least flawed choice is the best one. I believe that when you look at your options...and really think them through...a path for you will emerge.</p><p></p><p>The situation you describe is not uncommon in my experience. I know you miss your daughter and I hear your concern. Often girls will side with their fathers...against the mother. Sometimes they try to protect the father who they see as weaker. They know the mother is strong enough to take care of herself. I was that way.</p><p></p><p>Actually, I think the first decisions to make are about you. How can you begin to feel better about yourself? How can you have a safe place to be emotionally and spiritually?</p><p></p><p>Right now it seems to be in your car. That is not enough. I would want to gradually expand the activities and people and places in my life where I felt a sense of contentment, hope and safety.</p><p></p><p>If you do that, your relationship with your daughter might begin to change, too.</p><p></p><p>It sounds as if both your husband and yourself have pretty much given up on the marriage for all intents and purposes. It would not be good for me to stay where I was not respected and not considered. It is not good for our children to see us treated this way.</p><p></p><p>Living in a household where there is hostility and stress can be hurtful to children. Not disrupting your son's school is not the only important thing. The family status quo affects him too. Your state of mind and seeing that you are treated as someone worthy of respect is important too. To you and to both of your children.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes when we are depressed it feels like we have no options. That happened to me.</p><p></p><p>Each of us has value. Sometimes we have <em>to decide</em> to consider ourselves as worthy...as the first step. Everything else will follow from that.</p><p></p><p>Does this in my life make me feel as I have worth? Does that? What will? And go from there.</p><p></p><p>You have a good start with your Christian Faith.</p><p></p><p>You will find community here. Keep posting. I am glad you found us.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 666857, member: 18958"] Hi P126Mum. Welcome to the board. I am sorry you are suffering. But it brought you here. That is a good thing. We always have a choice. Most of the time there is not one perfect choice. Sometime we have to pick the best choice of bad ones...all of them seem flawed in some way. The least flawed choice is the best one. I believe that when you look at your options...and really think them through...a path for you will emerge. The situation you describe is not uncommon in my experience. I know you miss your daughter and I hear your concern. Often girls will side with their fathers...against the mother. Sometimes they try to protect the father who they see as weaker. They know the mother is strong enough to take care of herself. I was that way. Actually, I think the first decisions to make are about you. How can you begin to feel better about yourself? How can you have a safe place to be emotionally and spiritually? Right now it seems to be in your car. That is not enough. I would want to gradually expand the activities and people and places in my life where I felt a sense of contentment, hope and safety. If you do that, your relationship with your daughter might begin to change, too. It sounds as if both your husband and yourself have pretty much given up on the marriage for all intents and purposes. It would not be good for me to stay where I was not respected and not considered. It is not good for our children to see us treated this way. Living in a household where there is hostility and stress can be hurtful to children. Not disrupting your son's school is not the only important thing. The family status quo affects him too. Your state of mind and seeing that you are treated as someone worthy of respect is important too. To you and to both of your children. Sometimes when we are depressed it feels like we have no options. That happened to me. Each of us has value. Sometimes we have [I]to decide[/I] to consider ourselves as worthy...as the first step. Everything else will follow from that. Does this in my life make me feel as I have worth? Does that? What will? And go from there. You have a good start with your Christian Faith. You will find community here. Keep posting. I am glad you found us. COPA [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
New member here
Top