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<blockquote data-quote="Sumsky" data-source="post: 729829" data-attributes="member: 22893"><p>susiestar and Baggy Bags, thank you for your support. I have thought many times about sending SS to great grandparents. SS paternal grandparents and dad (my in-laws and husband) agree that SS has issues. They feel he needs counseling and help. They agree great parents are a big part of the problem. But NONE of them feel it is as serious as it is. I have fought the amount of influence great grandparents had on our family since day 1. Great grandparents have no problem with spending crazy amounts of money on SS just because he says he wants something. And then they will send SS home with all of it with nothing for the other 2 kids. It took years to change that. But now what happens is it still comes into my house, it is just hidden as it comes in. So they have taught SS how to sneak, lie, hide, manipulate, etc. When he gets caught and my husband calls them on it, it is turned on me and me only and said that I am just jealous of the money they have and want for my kids. These people are all about the money. They have used it to control my father in law, my husband and now my SS all their lives. They still do it with my father in law and SS. It has taken years and these issues with SS for my husband to see that they aren't very nice people. They have completely alienated 2 other grandchildren because they couldn't control them with their money. My father in law is the 'golden child', my husband is the 'golden grandchild' (or was until these issues with SS) and my SS is the 'golden great grandchild'. That being said... grandparents and dad won't allow it to happen now because they see the damage it is doing. It has taken me years of pointing things out to finally have it seen. mother in law and father in law are divorced and father in law is remarried. father in law new wife has been a great support to me. She has said from very early on that something wasn't right with SS. That has helped father in law to see that it is not just me being mean to his grandson. On top of that SS has gotten verbal aggressive with great grandparents when they do try to tell him no. Great grandparents are in upper 80s and they are afraid he may hurt them if someone is not around. So, why they don't see that he could hurt a 12 yo is beyond me. I also know that if SS is sent to live with them, there is NO HOPE. While part of me says I don't even care anymore just get him away from me. The other part of me says that I would NEVER do that to my bio children but I would go to the ends of the earth to get them the right help!(which I am not allowed to do for SS)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sumsky, post: 729829, member: 22893"] susiestar and Baggy Bags, thank you for your support. I have thought many times about sending SS to great grandparents. SS paternal grandparents and dad (my in-laws and husband) agree that SS has issues. They feel he needs counseling and help. They agree great parents are a big part of the problem. But NONE of them feel it is as serious as it is. I have fought the amount of influence great grandparents had on our family since day 1. Great grandparents have no problem with spending crazy amounts of money on SS just because he says he wants something. And then they will send SS home with all of it with nothing for the other 2 kids. It took years to change that. But now what happens is it still comes into my house, it is just hidden as it comes in. So they have taught SS how to sneak, lie, hide, manipulate, etc. When he gets caught and my husband calls them on it, it is turned on me and me only and said that I am just jealous of the money they have and want for my kids. These people are all about the money. They have used it to control my father in law, my husband and now my SS all their lives. They still do it with my father in law and SS. It has taken years and these issues with SS for my husband to see that they aren't very nice people. They have completely alienated 2 other grandchildren because they couldn't control them with their money. My father in law is the 'golden child', my husband is the 'golden grandchild' (or was until these issues with SS) and my SS is the 'golden great grandchild'. That being said... grandparents and dad won't allow it to happen now because they see the damage it is doing. It has taken me years of pointing things out to finally have it seen. mother in law and father in law are divorced and father in law is remarried. father in law new wife has been a great support to me. She has said from very early on that something wasn't right with SS. That has helped father in law to see that it is not just me being mean to his grandson. On top of that SS has gotten verbal aggressive with great grandparents when they do try to tell him no. Great grandparents are in upper 80s and they are afraid he may hurt them if someone is not around. So, why they don't see that he could hurt a 12 yo is beyond me. I also know that if SS is sent to live with them, there is NO HOPE. While part of me says I don't even care anymore just get him away from me. The other part of me says that I would NEVER do that to my bio children but I would go to the ends of the earth to get them the right help!(which I am not allowed to do for SS) [/QUOTE]
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