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The great grandparents sound like a real nightmare. Sounds like they need some counseling as well. And I can't believe your husband shrugged off the SS taping his 12-year-old daughter in the bathroom. Would he be so complacent about it if it were a neighbor kid doing it? I would be tempted to call the police, but I doubt you would want to do that behind your husband's back and it sounds like he would never agree to that. You sure have a plateful of issues to handle. I hope you find some answers or at least a little respite and solace. This group has proven to be a wonderful sounding board when you need advice or an understanding shoulder.