From my point of view it seems like paternal family feels they have a lot of power to intervene and to have sway over events in your own.
A question: Is this something you feel comfortable with? If not, do you want to address this here and think through how to deal with this?
To us here all of your feelings and thoughts and responses seem valid and reasonable and warranted. You need support; not opposition and undermining. It is wrong that you have to use precious energy to oppose these interventions that to me seem inappropriate, harmful and off the wall.
You are right. In everything you think and feel.