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<blockquote data-quote="Sumsky" data-source="post: 730119" data-attributes="member: 22893"><p>update.... cautiously optimistic. Daughter is staying with my parents. (I hate that) but I’m visiting and she’s spending time at home when SS is not home. This is only temporary, one way or another. Have appointment with family law attorney. Hoping it won’t come to that but not being naive either. SS had appointment yesterday. Psychologist is finally listening to us. SS has to go in today for another test. Dr is also consulting with a colleague. Based on that discussion, we will either be doing in home family therapy and/or residential treatment. Seems to be leaning toward residential. SS has been telling pyschologist that all is good, has lied about multiple things making it sound like things are going good, telling just enough of the negative to make it sound believable, appearing to cooperate but not allowing the deeper issues to be discussed, etc. Once we were given the opportunity to tell him the truth as we know it, pyschologist had a whole different perspective. Problem lies in that SS has to give us permission to have access to the information about him. Husband is still in somewhat denial but not total denial anymore. I do feel he just needs some time to absorb and accept some of this. This whole situation has only come to light in last 6 weeks. Husband has admitted that SS has some serious issues and without the proper treatment will take this to the next level. He is not prepared to accept that he could have already(at this point). I am hopeful for residential treatment. But either way will be doing some family therapy as I think we all need it. Another positive is that husband sat down with great grandparents and made it all very clear to them where WE stand and that WE are both trying to do what is right for SS and this family as a whole. And that we need their support not their interference. He also made it very clear that this is the last chance they have.... if they don’t get on board and obey our wishes, they will NOT be spending ANY time with SS AT ALL!! I have tried to get husband to have that talk for 11 years!! We are going to get daughter tonight and go for dinner and spend some time with her. I do feel that we are making progress and husband knows it’s serious. Not letting SS victimize daughter, our family or anyone else again!! If SS is not removed soon we will divorce!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sumsky, post: 730119, member: 22893"] update.... cautiously optimistic. Daughter is staying with my parents. (I hate that) but I’m visiting and she’s spending time at home when SS is not home. This is only temporary, one way or another. Have appointment with family law attorney. Hoping it won’t come to that but not being naive either. SS had appointment yesterday. Psychologist is finally listening to us. SS has to go in today for another test. Dr is also consulting with a colleague. Based on that discussion, we will either be doing in home family therapy and/or residential treatment. Seems to be leaning toward residential. SS has been telling pyschologist that all is good, has lied about multiple things making it sound like things are going good, telling just enough of the negative to make it sound believable, appearing to cooperate but not allowing the deeper issues to be discussed, etc. Once we were given the opportunity to tell him the truth as we know it, pyschologist had a whole different perspective. Problem lies in that SS has to give us permission to have access to the information about him. Husband is still in somewhat denial but not total denial anymore. I do feel he just needs some time to absorb and accept some of this. This whole situation has only come to light in last 6 weeks. Husband has admitted that SS has some serious issues and without the proper treatment will take this to the next level. He is not prepared to accept that he could have already(at this point). I am hopeful for residential treatment. But either way will be doing some family therapy as I think we all need it. Another positive is that husband sat down with great grandparents and made it all very clear to them where WE stand and that WE are both trying to do what is right for SS and this family as a whole. And that we need their support not their interference. He also made it very clear that this is the last chance they have.... if they don’t get on board and obey our wishes, they will NOT be spending ANY time with SS AT ALL!! I have tried to get husband to have that talk for 11 years!! We are going to get daughter tonight and go for dinner and spend some time with her. I do feel that we are making progress and husband knows it’s serious. Not letting SS victimize daughter, our family or anyone else again!! If SS is not removed soon we will divorce!! [/QUOTE]
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