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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 731138" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Sumsky, you are so welcome. I want to share something with you which I hope will provide a fresh perspective......when my granddaughter was 11 years old, I went to court for guardianship because my daughter went off the rails and could not be a healthy, good parent after her husband killed himself. In addition, her in-laws were extremely toxic folks who chose to look for someone to blame for their son's decision and made my daughter's life a misery. My granddaughter was suffering in the midst of the adults losing their minds with grief, rage, bullying and loads of inappropriate, unfortunate behaviors. Like you, I was standing alone in the middle of a huge mess I had not created, yet it was impacting an innocent child whom I love. It was tough to call CPS on my only child. It was tough to go to court against my only child. It was tough to be so alone in such an emotional, dramatic situation where folks were cemented in their beliefs and would not change. My marriage ended. I lost a lot.</p><p></p><p> My granddaughter is 22 now and doing very, very well. My daughter and I have reconciled and found a new way to connect. I met and married a wonderful man who helped me raise my granddaughter. I look back and realize there wasn't any other way I could have handled it.....I was the only adult who could see what was truly going on......like you......and I took action......like you.......and it felt pretty scary and weird and I worried constantly not knowing if what I was doing was right.....like you.....</p><p></p><p>Sometimes we have to show up and do what we feel is right. Often we don't know much along the way except that we have to do <em>something</em>. One step after another we get to the other side, one day at a time, often one moment at a time. </p><p></p><p>Bob Marley said, "You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." You and I had no choice but to protect the children. In my opinion, you've made the right choice, the only choice where it's conceivable that a positive outcome might be created for everyone. Good job Sumsky. And, I know it doesn't feel very good right now, you've got a lot riding in uncertainty......</p><p></p><p>.....your daughter, your step son and your husband are fortunate to have you on their side.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there Sumsky......this too shall pass....we'll circle our wagons around you as you navigate this bumpy terrain.....you're not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 731138, member: 13542"] Sumsky, you are so welcome. I want to share something with you which I hope will provide a fresh perspective......when my granddaughter was 11 years old, I went to court for guardianship because my daughter went off the rails and could not be a healthy, good parent after her husband killed himself. In addition, her in-laws were extremely toxic folks who chose to look for someone to blame for their son's decision and made my daughter's life a misery. My granddaughter was suffering in the midst of the adults losing their minds with grief, rage, bullying and loads of inappropriate, unfortunate behaviors. Like you, I was standing alone in the middle of a huge mess I had not created, yet it was impacting an innocent child whom I love. It was tough to call CPS on my only child. It was tough to go to court against my only child. It was tough to be so alone in such an emotional, dramatic situation where folks were cemented in their beliefs and would not change. My marriage ended. I lost a lot. My granddaughter is 22 now and doing very, very well. My daughter and I have reconciled and found a new way to connect. I met and married a wonderful man who helped me raise my granddaughter. I look back and realize there wasn't any other way I could have handled it.....I was the only adult who could see what was truly going on......like you......and I took action......like you.......and it felt pretty scary and weird and I worried constantly not knowing if what I was doing was right.....like you..... Sometimes we have to show up and do what we feel is right. Often we don't know much along the way except that we have to do [I]something[/I]. One step after another we get to the other side, one day at a time, often one moment at a time. Bob Marley said, "You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." You and I had no choice but to protect the children. In my opinion, you've made the right choice, the only choice where it's conceivable that a positive outcome might be created for everyone. Good job Sumsky. And, I know it doesn't feel very good right now, you've got a lot riding in uncertainty...... .....your daughter, your step son and your husband are fortunate to have you on their side. Hang in there Sumsky......this too shall pass....we'll circle our wagons around you as you navigate this bumpy terrain.....you're not alone. [/QUOTE]
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