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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 737734" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>You chose not to report this to the authorities in part to protect your daughter. You did so in part to protect your marriage, your other children and your husband.</p><p></p><p>From what you have written, i do not think you ever sought to protect him.</p><p></p><p>I am not honoring stepsons privacy, but the law does. We do not live in a vigilante society. As far as the law is concerned, nothing ever happened if you did not report the crime. What the therapists are saying, is this, indirectly. If you were to tell anothrr child's parents what happened, i would worry about the consequences to you.</p><p></p><p>Many, if not most of us, make the same choice as did you. We seek to keep the status quo. We hope things will change, improve. We hope what we saw, know to be true, is not. We deny. We minimize. We excuse. We rationalize. We blame the victim. You have seen all of this and more in your family.</p><p></p><p>I don't know what is the best or right thing to do. I do not know if he will offend or not. I think you made a reasonable decision for understandable reasons.</p><p></p><p>You have no real power or responsibility here.now. only stepson does and to an extent, his father. I think you may be taking on more responsibility than is yours to bear.</p><p></p><p>PS. I just read re's post. She said what I mean.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 737734, member: 18958"] You chose not to report this to the authorities in part to protect your daughter. You did so in part to protect your marriage, your other children and your husband. From what you have written, i do not think you ever sought to protect him. I am not honoring stepsons privacy, but the law does. We do not live in a vigilante society. As far as the law is concerned, nothing ever happened if you did not report the crime. What the therapists are saying, is this, indirectly. If you were to tell anothrr child's parents what happened, i would worry about the consequences to you. Many, if not most of us, make the same choice as did you. We seek to keep the status quo. We hope things will change, improve. We hope what we saw, know to be true, is not. We deny. We minimize. We excuse. We rationalize. We blame the victim. You have seen all of this and more in your family. I don't know what is the best or right thing to do. I do not know if he will offend or not. I think you made a reasonable decision for understandable reasons. You have no real power or responsibility here.now. only stepson does and to an extent, his father. I think you may be taking on more responsibility than is yours to bear. PS. I just read re's post. She said what I mean. [/QUOTE]
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