Copabanana, SS does not understand cause and effect AT ALL. He is truly believes that this has not impacted anyone other than him at this point. And only because he has lost privileges now. I feel for you and your son.
Copabanana at the start of all of this, I had no doubt that SS was antisocial. Autism was never a thought. Never, not even in the early years when he was diagnosed with ADHD. But having the therapists point out things has made me more aware. And he truly does not understand others emotions, he lacks remorse. He does not understand how he impacts others. I feel for you and your son. I know the worry we have and we still have some control and say on what happens with him. It is all so confusing and frustrating. I can’t imagine a life without the capacity to feel love and acceptance and compassion. But I also cannot allow that same person to keep harming others because of it. It doesn’t sound like your son hurts anyone but himself. That has to be so hard to accept. We always want so much for our children. Sending hugs your way.