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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 741576" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This is true, SWOT. Thank you for your comments.</p><p>This is so complicated, Sumsky. </p><p></p><p>From what you have written stepson's therapists/evaluators have been extremely thorough and you should know a great deal more when the testing results are in. </p><p></p><p>I am not as pessimistic as is SWOT (although I understand her feelings in light of the experience of the past.) Stepson is very young. While I am in no position to know it sounds like his behavior could have as much to do with a lack of understanding of boundaries, and a lack of understanding of other people's reactions to what he does, as opposed to either poor impulse control or strong impulses to act out. </p><p></p><p>He may be experimenting with cause and effect. And doing so at a very immature level. He seems to have very little insight into the need to conceal his bad behavior and seems not to be acting covertly. </p><p></p><p>What I am trying to do is offer hope. This is what the psychologists are trying to tease out. And they will target these weak links hopefully to give him the missing links he needs. </p><p></p><p>What we are doing here is looking at the effect, which is the behavior. There can be many routes to the end result, the bad behavior. They are trying to find out what route stepson takes. When we look at just the bad behavior, we as human beings are hardwired to impute causation. We fill in the blanks. Oh. If he did this, it must be that he is dangerous. Yes. many times people who perpetrate bad acts intend them. Other times they are missing key aspects of their thinking that would have stopped them in their tracks. or ways to evaluate context and other people as to better understand the world.</p><p></p><p>Anybody would FEEL as you do. And NOBODY would want to be subjected to this kind of behavior. My own son is a sweet person and I cannot bear right now to be around him. And I am not defending stepson. I think he should go to residential until he is 18. I do not think he should come back home. But given the level of support this child has, and the resources of the family I believe there is a reasonable chance with intensive intervention he can be helped.</p><p></p><p>That is all I am saying.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 741576, member: 18958"] This is true, SWOT. Thank you for your comments. This is so complicated, Sumsky. From what you have written stepson's therapists/evaluators have been extremely thorough and you should know a great deal more when the testing results are in. I am not as pessimistic as is SWOT (although I understand her feelings in light of the experience of the past.) Stepson is very young. While I am in no position to know it sounds like his behavior could have as much to do with a lack of understanding of boundaries, and a lack of understanding of other people's reactions to what he does, as opposed to either poor impulse control or strong impulses to act out. He may be experimenting with cause and effect. And doing so at a very immature level. He seems to have very little insight into the need to conceal his bad behavior and seems not to be acting covertly. What I am trying to do is offer hope. This is what the psychologists are trying to tease out. And they will target these weak links hopefully to give him the missing links he needs. What we are doing here is looking at the effect, which is the behavior. There can be many routes to the end result, the bad behavior. They are trying to find out what route stepson takes. When we look at just the bad behavior, we as human beings are hardwired to impute causation. We fill in the blanks. Oh. If he did this, it must be that he is dangerous. Yes. many times people who perpetrate bad acts intend them. Other times they are missing key aspects of their thinking that would have stopped them in their tracks. or ways to evaluate context and other people as to better understand the world. Anybody would FEEL as you do. And NOBODY would want to be subjected to this kind of behavior. My own son is a sweet person and I cannot bear right now to be around him. And I am not defending stepson. I think he should go to residential until he is 18. I do not think he should come back home. But given the level of support this child has, and the resources of the family I believe there is a reasonable chance with intensive intervention he can be helped. That is all I am saying. [/QUOTE]
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