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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 741577" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>A long time ago I had a talk with a therapist about the existence or lack there of when someone doesn’t seem to have a conscience. What she told me was; that a person needs to be able to empathize to have a conscience. But a conscience is not required for someone to live a good life. She said there are lots of people who don’t have much of a conscience doing okay and who have never been in trouble. She said in their cases the driving factor is to keep from causing trouble for themselves. They follow the rules of society just because it keeps them out of trouble and makes life easier for them. So if it’s decided your SS can’t feel emotion maybe then the therapists will take a different route and focus on how he needs to behave to stay out of trouble, like telling him as you said “this is the right way, this is the wrong way”. I still have a hard time wrapping my head around her theory, seems like trying to teach someone to walk who doesn’t have legs, but I know she knows her stuff. Maybe there is hope with the right focus for him. The phone and the headphones are kind of black and white, not something I think someone would be on emotional overload about and not be able to understand how it affects others when told, but who knows.</p><p></p><p>As SWOT said it really doesn’t seem to have anything to do with Autism. I mean he might have Aspergers also but typically it’s social cues that have to be taught, not a conscience. The few people I know with Aspergers have very well defined consciences, maybe too well, especially after the fact. I think that comes from trying to find their way through the maze. Even when they don’t understand emotions they don’t want to hurt and disregard others.</p><p></p><p>As others have said here, I hope you are taking care of yourself during these times. I realize more now more than ever what it means to take care of myself. I didn’t in the middle of all of the crises. You have gone far and above what most would have done. Whatever makes you de-stress is best. Exercise, a massage, walking for miles someplace that gives you peace, whatever it is…. Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 741577, member: 22840"] A long time ago I had a talk with a therapist about the existence or lack there of when someone doesn’t seem to have a conscience. What she told me was; that a person needs to be able to empathize to have a conscience. But a conscience is not required for someone to live a good life. She said there are lots of people who don’t have much of a conscience doing okay and who have never been in trouble. She said in their cases the driving factor is to keep from causing trouble for themselves. They follow the rules of society just because it keeps them out of trouble and makes life easier for them. So if it’s decided your SS can’t feel emotion maybe then the therapists will take a different route and focus on how he needs to behave to stay out of trouble, like telling him as you said “this is the right way, this is the wrong way”. I still have a hard time wrapping my head around her theory, seems like trying to teach someone to walk who doesn’t have legs, but I know she knows her stuff. Maybe there is hope with the right focus for him. The phone and the headphones are kind of black and white, not something I think someone would be on emotional overload about and not be able to understand how it affects others when told, but who knows. As SWOT said it really doesn’t seem to have anything to do with Autism. I mean he might have Aspergers also but typically it’s social cues that have to be taught, not a conscience. The few people I know with Aspergers have very well defined consciences, maybe too well, especially after the fact. I think that comes from trying to find their way through the maze. Even when they don’t understand emotions they don’t want to hurt and disregard others. As others have said here, I hope you are taking care of yourself during these times. I realize more now more than ever what it means to take care of myself. I didn’t in the middle of all of the crises. You have gone far and above what most would have done. Whatever makes you de-stress is best. Exercise, a massage, walking for miles someplace that gives you peace, whatever it is…. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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