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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 390926" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Welcome. Sorry you need us. </p><p></p><p>I'm wondering what exactly is wrong with her bio-dad to make him lose his job and then end up homeless - why can't he cope? OK, this could be cultural differences here again, but it would seem to me that this gives a higher chance that perhaps there is some hereditary mental health problem.</p><p></p><p>Two things I can think of:</p><p></p><p>1) she is making this up and knows she is making it up, but has now dug herself in so deep she has to go on pretending, or have to back down and lose too much face...</p><p>If this is the case, then at some stage in the not too distant future, when this crisis is resolved, get her mentored in creative writing. She's got a gift, and it needs a more suitable outlet, one which puts her creativity to more productive and appropriate use.</p><p></p><p>2) she really believes this; in which case, she desperately needs help for what appears to be a psychotic break.</p><p></p><p>Life for teens is stressful. These days are bad; it was bad in our day too. I remember kids who had "nervous breakdowns" and needed a long time and a lot of help to recover. it could even be a combination of these things - it may have begun as an imagination game (too much idle time on her hands!) and has progressed through fantasy to now have the strength of a belief system.</p><p></p><p>The doctors are doing what they can to unravel this. As far as CPS is concerned, you guys will be in the clear; she has cried wolf too often. She has only done herself a disservice by her accusations now. Let that one go and don't worry; just make sure you keep good records and copies of any CPS paperwork that clears you. Also any letters from any health professional who can attest to the delusional state (or the lies). Keep a detailed diary also.</p><p></p><p>Stress can do a lot of mental damage to a vulnerable teen. Her father's problems may be the main issue; or they could be coincidental, or possibly her condition is following his. I don't know. But I would ask her doctors if there could be a connection.</p><p></p><p>Keep in touch, let us know how you get on.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 390926, member: 1991"] Welcome. Sorry you need us. I'm wondering what exactly is wrong with her bio-dad to make him lose his job and then end up homeless - why can't he cope? OK, this could be cultural differences here again, but it would seem to me that this gives a higher chance that perhaps there is some hereditary mental health problem. Two things I can think of: 1) she is making this up and knows she is making it up, but has now dug herself in so deep she has to go on pretending, or have to back down and lose too much face... If this is the case, then at some stage in the not too distant future, when this crisis is resolved, get her mentored in creative writing. She's got a gift, and it needs a more suitable outlet, one which puts her creativity to more productive and appropriate use. 2) she really believes this; in which case, she desperately needs help for what appears to be a psychotic break. Life for teens is stressful. These days are bad; it was bad in our day too. I remember kids who had "nervous breakdowns" and needed a long time and a lot of help to recover. it could even be a combination of these things - it may have begun as an imagination game (too much idle time on her hands!) and has progressed through fantasy to now have the strength of a belief system. The doctors are doing what they can to unravel this. As far as CPS is concerned, you guys will be in the clear; she has cried wolf too often. She has only done herself a disservice by her accusations now. Let that one go and don't worry; just make sure you keep good records and copies of any CPS paperwork that clears you. Also any letters from any health professional who can attest to the delusional state (or the lies). Keep a detailed diary also. Stress can do a lot of mental damage to a vulnerable teen. Her father's problems may be the main issue; or they could be coincidental, or possibly her condition is following his. I don't know. But I would ask her doctors if there could be a connection. Keep in touch, let us know how you get on. Marg [/QUOTE]
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