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<blockquote data-quote="Luvbooks7" data-source="post: 352102"><p>1/What type of professional diagnosed her? When the sheriff came to the house and Baker Acted her, she was sent to the local mental health center in town for 72 hours. A doctor diagnosed her, I assume it was a psychiatrist.</p><p></p><p> </p><p> 2/Are there any psychiatric problems on either side of her genetic family tree, including father, even if he has never met her...she still has 50% of his genes. Often psychiatric conditions are hereditary and lead us in the right direction.--------------Yes her dad who speaks with her on the phone once a week, took Ritalin for either ADD or ADHD as a child. He was diagnosed with Schizophrenia within the last 2 years. </p><p> </p><p> 3/How was her early development, such as speech, eye contact with you and strangers, sensitivity to sounds/light/certain foods & fabrics</p><p></p><p>--</p><p></p><p>When she was little, she spoke well, and often. She likes meeting people, her teachers have told me shes "too social at the wrong times". I never noticed any sensitivity to light or fabric, or food.</p><p></p><p>? Did she play appropriately with toys?</p><p></p><p>As long as she chooses, yes. It's when someone chooses for her that she has a problem. Or when playing with others, if she isn't dictating how to play, she gets upset. </p><p></p><p></p><p> Any strange quirks? Not strange, but not age appropriate. She's 10 and still sucks her thumb. She does this thing with her tongue, a cross between licking her lips and chewing on her tongue. Now that is strange. Strange behavior, now she will sneak soup cans or whatever into her room, eat part of it and leave it to rot in her room. Smear food on the walls, sprinkle coffee or flour all over her carpet. Be caught literally wearing parmesan cheese on her face while holding the bottle, trying to hide it so I don't see it and denying that she's even near it. Blows my mind! And the poor cats, she bullies one often, the poor thing runs away from her all the time. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Any obsessions? -- Being in control, being the boss. </p><p></p><p>Is she inflexible? --absolutely. As long as she decides or chooses she's fine. It's the being told to do something that just brings on a temper fit. I've put up a chalk board in the frontroom and write down daily, school, feed dog, which day of the week is library day, etc. I tell her to choose the order of doing the things on her list, but she still rebels. She'd rather stare into space, sleep, eat or play than do homework or anything that she doesnt want to do.</p><p>Her one teacher said that she seems to resent being told to write in her planner at school. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Can she transition from one activity to another without a meltdown? Again, as long as she's in control of what she will do next and when she will choose it, she's fine. If someone tells her to do something even as simple as wash your hands for dinner in 10 minutes, she just has a meltdown.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Does she know how to hold a give-and-take conversation or does she sort of monologue at people or just answer "yes" and "no."</p><p></p><p>If she wants to talk about something, usually something about herself, oh my friend has this pretty dress, or my friend wants to trade something with me. She's fine. If I talk to her about something, she tunes out and is like whatever.</p><p></p><p> How are her social skills with her same age peers?-- She's miles behind her peers emotionally for sure. And I've never seen such a drama queen. </p><p></p><p> How does she do in school?--She's intelligent, but makes quick careless mistakes and her grades aren't good at all. Pass/fail, she's passing PE and Music since they don't do a whole lot there. Social Studies, English, Math Reading, Science and the other subjects are all D's on the progress report. They're on spring break and get a report card on the 16th. I don't expect that she's brought her grades up since she tells me no homework at all, constantly, yet the teachers at the last conferenece told me to make sure she does her homework. At the beginning of the year these same teachers told me to quit hovering around her and let her become more independent. </p><p>Darned if I do darned if I don't it feels like.</p><p></p><p>Thanks everyone for the welcomes! </p><p></p><p>i'm nervous about the first therapy session she has on Thursday, she is quite good at manipulating and she's brought the sheriff's out a few times claiming I'm abusing her. There's a department of Children and Families worker investigating us now. </p><p></p><p>Can anyone give me any idea on who to talk to about my question- yes another one here- her brother is just 7, she bullies him often, it goes beyond normal sibling rivalry, but how can I keep him safe from her? I know there should be someone in "authority" to ask, I feel that my responsibility as a parent is to keep ALL of my children safe, not just allow her to run things.</p><p></p><p>And a great little book I just skimmed through- The Whipped Parent by Kimberly Abraham MSW, has lots of tips and just generally made me feel like less a failure as a parent.</p><p></p><p>lisa/luvbooks</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Luvbooks7, post: 352102"] 1/What type of professional diagnosed her? When the sheriff came to the house and Baker Acted her, she was sent to the local mental health center in town for 72 hours. A doctor diagnosed her, I assume it was a psychiatrist. 2/Are there any psychiatric problems on either side of her genetic family tree, including father, even if he has never met her...she still has 50% of his genes. Often psychiatric conditions are hereditary and lead us in the right direction.--------------Yes her dad who speaks with her on the phone once a week, took Ritalin for either ADD or ADHD as a child. He was diagnosed with Schizophrenia within the last 2 years. 3/How was her early development, such as speech, eye contact with you and strangers, sensitivity to sounds/light/certain foods & fabrics -- When she was little, she spoke well, and often. She likes meeting people, her teachers have told me shes "too social at the wrong times". I never noticed any sensitivity to light or fabric, or food. ? Did she play appropriately with toys? As long as she chooses, yes. It's when someone chooses for her that she has a problem. Or when playing with others, if she isn't dictating how to play, she gets upset. Any strange quirks? Not strange, but not age appropriate. She's 10 and still sucks her thumb. She does this thing with her tongue, a cross between licking her lips and chewing on her tongue. Now that is strange. Strange behavior, now she will sneak soup cans or whatever into her room, eat part of it and leave it to rot in her room. Smear food on the walls, sprinkle coffee or flour all over her carpet. Be caught literally wearing parmesan cheese on her face while holding the bottle, trying to hide it so I don't see it and denying that she's even near it. Blows my mind! And the poor cats, she bullies one often, the poor thing runs away from her all the time. Any obsessions? -- Being in control, being the boss. Is she inflexible? --absolutely. As long as she decides or chooses she's fine. It's the being told to do something that just brings on a temper fit. I've put up a chalk board in the frontroom and write down daily, school, feed dog, which day of the week is library day, etc. I tell her to choose the order of doing the things on her list, but she still rebels. She'd rather stare into space, sleep, eat or play than do homework or anything that she doesnt want to do. Her one teacher said that she seems to resent being told to write in her planner at school. Can she transition from one activity to another without a meltdown? Again, as long as she's in control of what she will do next and when she will choose it, she's fine. If someone tells her to do something even as simple as wash your hands for dinner in 10 minutes, she just has a meltdown. Does she know how to hold a give-and-take conversation or does she sort of monologue at people or just answer "yes" and "no." If she wants to talk about something, usually something about herself, oh my friend has this pretty dress, or my friend wants to trade something with me. She's fine. If I talk to her about something, she tunes out and is like whatever. How are her social skills with her same age peers?-- She's miles behind her peers emotionally for sure. And I've never seen such a drama queen. How does she do in school?--She's intelligent, but makes quick careless mistakes and her grades aren't good at all. Pass/fail, she's passing PE and Music since they don't do a whole lot there. Social Studies, English, Math Reading, Science and the other subjects are all D's on the progress report. They're on spring break and get a report card on the 16th. I don't expect that she's brought her grades up since she tells me no homework at all, constantly, yet the teachers at the last conferenece told me to make sure she does her homework. At the beginning of the year these same teachers told me to quit hovering around her and let her become more independent. Darned if I do darned if I don't it feels like. Thanks everyone for the welcomes! i'm nervous about the first therapy session she has on Thursday, she is quite good at manipulating and she's brought the sheriff's out a few times claiming I'm abusing her. There's a department of Children and Families worker investigating us now. Can anyone give me any idea on who to talk to about my question- yes another one here- her brother is just 7, she bullies him often, it goes beyond normal sibling rivalry, but how can I keep him safe from her? I know there should be someone in "authority" to ask, I feel that my responsibility as a parent is to keep ALL of my children safe, not just allow her to run things. And a great little book I just skimmed through- The Whipped Parent by Kimberly Abraham MSW, has lots of tips and just generally made me feel like less a failure as a parent. lisa/luvbooks [/QUOTE]
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