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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 96502" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>MWM, I do know where you're coming from. I wish more parents could be as active as we are in following up on our children, their education and their needs, and being REASONABLE about it as we do.</p><p></p><p>I've supported a number of other parents in trying to get support, assistance, diagnosis for their kids. Some parents are great once they know what they need to do. Others blow with the wind, depending on what different people advise them. And again, others get their own fixed ideas and totally refuse to compromise or listen to the school's point of view. Even if the school has got it wrong - there are ways of working with them as a team (which you and I do) which so many parents do not.</p><p></p><p>Then there are those who use denial as a coping strategy.</p><p></p><p>And the variations on all these.</p><p></p><p>Yes, we parents get blamed a lot more than we should. I've had school counsellors and teachers accuse me of some terrible things, to my face as well as behind my back. But I stuck it out, faced them with it, discussed it all calmly with them and taught them purely by showing them, that things were not as they thought. The ultimate aim in my book - for them to learn and be better equipped for the child to come after mine.</p><p></p><p>We need good teachers in the system, teachers who will listen to us, listen to the child and use their brains to work out the best way to manage - for the child's sake and the teacher's sakes too, because good teachers who burn out are not of use to us (sorry to seem so cynical, all you teachers!).</p><p></p><p>From what teachergirl said about the child's parents, I can see why at this stage she seems critical. I'm not above being critical of parents either, although I would hope any person would change her views if the evidence warranted it.</p><p></p><p>It would be good to be wrong. It would be bad to be complacent and assume there was no problem with the parents.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, fellow warrior mum.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 96502, member: 1991"] MWM, I do know where you're coming from. I wish more parents could be as active as we are in following up on our children, their education and their needs, and being REASONABLE about it as we do. I've supported a number of other parents in trying to get support, assistance, diagnosis for their kids. Some parents are great once they know what they need to do. Others blow with the wind, depending on what different people advise them. And again, others get their own fixed ideas and totally refuse to compromise or listen to the school's point of view. Even if the school has got it wrong - there are ways of working with them as a team (which you and I do) which so many parents do not. Then there are those who use denial as a coping strategy. And the variations on all these. Yes, we parents get blamed a lot more than we should. I've had school counsellors and teachers accuse me of some terrible things, to my face as well as behind my back. But I stuck it out, faced them with it, discussed it all calmly with them and taught them purely by showing them, that things were not as they thought. The ultimate aim in my book - for them to learn and be better equipped for the child to come after mine. We need good teachers in the system, teachers who will listen to us, listen to the child and use their brains to work out the best way to manage - for the child's sake and the teacher's sakes too, because good teachers who burn out are not of use to us (sorry to seem so cynical, all you teachers!). From what teachergirl said about the child's parents, I can see why at this stage she seems critical. I'm not above being critical of parents either, although I would hope any person would change her views if the evidence warranted it. It would be good to be wrong. It would be bad to be complacent and assume there was no problem with the parents. Hang in there, fellow warrior mum. Marg [/QUOTE]
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