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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 53139" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>We've been referred to a new psychiatrist outside of our plan by two people, the counselor and a friend who has seen this man. He is very expensive though and its hard to gather the funds when paying attorney fees etc. Our insurance won't cover him at all, so it will all be out of pocket. We thought of taking them to our general practitioner for an opinion between now and then. Any thoughts? Our GP has experience in mood disorders, but obviously won't have as much experience as a psychiatrist. We're just not sure what else to do, with 3 that need the new doctor, its going to be about $400 to walk in the door and about $300 every month after, not including medications. medications now are about $200 a month. I don't think only taking them once is helpful, I think they need to be seen regularly by the same person, but this is a new monthly bill we can't afford yet. My dad says 200 mg of Zoloft is too much too, he says as an adult that 50 mg was his dosage. I've started reading the book that everyone recommended. So far, my kids seem easy in comparison to the those he gives examples of. Mine have more problems with outbursts like he talks about at school and not at home. School says its because they aren't comfortable enough at home to act this way, but I don't see it that way. We also get to hear that its because we don't pay enough attention to them and they need more. I think we are extremely structured and scheduled at home and they know what to expect, so it makes life easier for them. I have menus for breakfast/lunch/dinner on the fridge, we eat at the same time every night, showers are scheduled, bedtime is the same, time on playstation/computer etc. is scheduled for each kid. We started that just so that everyone got turns and life was easier for us as far as menus, so grocery shopping and daily planning was more simple, but I think in the long run, it really helped my 3 difficult children. The chaos in a normal classroom is too much for them I think and thats why they're breaking down there. One teacher once compared our home life to a concentration camp and said this is why our youngest difficult child was breaking down at school, because he felt relaxed enough there to do it. I have always heard structure and scheduling helps kids thrive. I didn't use to be so structured/scheduled when I was a single mom with 2 easy child boys, it wasn't until I had my 3 difficult children that I thought this is what I needed to do for them. They have improved significantly since my husband and I have been married. difficult child I use to urinate on kids at school, kick teacheres, threaten people, got suspended from school in Kindergarten and more. Now his outbursts are more arguing with the teacher or kids, nothing physical. I feel for him because he doesn't have any friends and can't seem to make any. I wish I could afford to buy this book for all of their old teachers and new teachers. I think it might make them realize that we are doing our best and that some kids are just this way. I do agree that their medications aren't right, I'm just not sure what to do about it in the immediate future. We can't afford the new psychiatrist out of plan right now. Our monthly bills between the current psychiatrist/medications, attorney fees and ex issues are $1200 a month. I don't think I can squeeze another $400 out of it. Do you think the GP will be any help? I'm fearful of trying a new psychiatrist in plan that I don't know anything about. The current psychiatrist is rated in the top 10 in our metroplex. The counselor doesn't like him though. Are there places to find recommendations for psychiatrists in certain areas? I prefer to hear someone had a good experience with someone over just randomly choosing one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 53139, member: 3837"] We've been referred to a new psychiatrist outside of our plan by two people, the counselor and a friend who has seen this man. He is very expensive though and its hard to gather the funds when paying attorney fees etc. Our insurance won't cover him at all, so it will all be out of pocket. We thought of taking them to our general practitioner for an opinion between now and then. Any thoughts? Our GP has experience in mood disorders, but obviously won't have as much experience as a psychiatrist. We're just not sure what else to do, with 3 that need the new doctor, its going to be about $400 to walk in the door and about $300 every month after, not including medications. medications now are about $200 a month. I don't think only taking them once is helpful, I think they need to be seen regularly by the same person, but this is a new monthly bill we can't afford yet. My dad says 200 mg of Zoloft is too much too, he says as an adult that 50 mg was his dosage. I've started reading the book that everyone recommended. So far, my kids seem easy in comparison to the those he gives examples of. Mine have more problems with outbursts like he talks about at school and not at home. School says its because they aren't comfortable enough at home to act this way, but I don't see it that way. We also get to hear that its because we don't pay enough attention to them and they need more. I think we are extremely structured and scheduled at home and they know what to expect, so it makes life easier for them. I have menus for breakfast/lunch/dinner on the fridge, we eat at the same time every night, showers are scheduled, bedtime is the same, time on playstation/computer etc. is scheduled for each kid. We started that just so that everyone got turns and life was easier for us as far as menus, so grocery shopping and daily planning was more simple, but I think in the long run, it really helped my 3 difficult children. The chaos in a normal classroom is too much for them I think and thats why they're breaking down there. One teacher once compared our home life to a concentration camp and said this is why our youngest difficult child was breaking down at school, because he felt relaxed enough there to do it. I have always heard structure and scheduling helps kids thrive. I didn't use to be so structured/scheduled when I was a single mom with 2 easy child boys, it wasn't until I had my 3 difficult children that I thought this is what I needed to do for them. They have improved significantly since my husband and I have been married. difficult child I use to urinate on kids at school, kick teacheres, threaten people, got suspended from school in Kindergarten and more. Now his outbursts are more arguing with the teacher or kids, nothing physical. I feel for him because he doesn't have any friends and can't seem to make any. I wish I could afford to buy this book for all of their old teachers and new teachers. I think it might make them realize that we are doing our best and that some kids are just this way. I do agree that their medications aren't right, I'm just not sure what to do about it in the immediate future. We can't afford the new psychiatrist out of plan right now. Our monthly bills between the current psychiatrist/medications, attorney fees and ex issues are $1200 a month. I don't think I can squeeze another $400 out of it. Do you think the GP will be any help? I'm fearful of trying a new psychiatrist in plan that I don't know anything about. The current psychiatrist is rated in the top 10 in our metroplex. The counselor doesn't like him though. Are there places to find recommendations for psychiatrists in certain areas? I prefer to hear someone had a good experience with someone over just randomly choosing one. [/QUOTE]
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